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thndrnltng #2392983 06/18/10 09:32 PM
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OK, I'm leaving this email address up for 5 minutes. If you want my guess, you can email me. After that I'm takingit down and going to the market to get a pizza to take to church potluck tomorrow. I'm not feeling cook-y. I'll deal with any emails after I get back and run my 95-year old "baby" through the shower.

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thndrnltng #2392985 06/18/10 09:33 PM
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I'm not sure you need the email address! rotflmao

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thndrnltng #2392986 06/18/10 09:35 PM
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MmmmmmmHmmmmmmm!!!!!!


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still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
thndrnltng #2392987 06/18/10 09:36 PM
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OK, I've been told my guess is wrong. I guess there must be 2 of them with the same propensity.

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Just say it!! banghead


Me 34
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The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
thndrnltng #2392989 06/18/10 09:40 PM
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Really?...Hmmmmmmm?....


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still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
Gack1 #2392990 06/18/10 09:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Gack1
Just say it!! banghead

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DDay aug 2007
found MB dec 2007
Moved out april 2008
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Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
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What about the one that begins with "b"?...Just a random letter.

Oh wait a minute, I think he isnt from the US and this poster is...Bloody hell!!!! I am just an idiot, dont mind me. Its just so familiar.

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BW me-41
WH -39
DS - 9
married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered
DDay aug 2007
found MB dec 2007
Moved out april 2008
still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
pianogal01 #2392998 06/18/10 09:51 PM
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Before I begin...... I'm a FWS

Originally Posted by pianogal01
I get frustrated reading all these "holier than thou" posts because they are the BS and could control themselves while the WS is dirt.

I have never seen a BS behave "holier than thou" on these forums. But if you are frustrated that a BS has the moral highground..... Then you need to get over it, because they do!


Originally Posted by pianogal01
Affairs turn good people into liars, deceivers, manipulators, home-wreckers...the list goes on and on..

I am a God-fearing woman who loves the Lord.

If you are a God fearing woman, then be honest and realize you became a liar, deceiver & manipulator prior to even taking the first step into adultery. Adultery didn't "turn" you into anything..... You made every single choice, and no one held a gun to your head either.





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Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
HerPapaBear #2393007 06/18/10 10:23 PM
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Originally Posted by tst
Before I begin...... I'm a FWS

Originally Posted by pianogal01
I get frustrated reading all these "holier than thou" posts because they are the BS and could control themselves while the WS is dirt.

I have never seen a BS behave "holier than thou" on these forums. But if you are frustrated that a BS has the moral highground..... Then you need to get over it, because they do!


Originally Posted by pianogal01
Affairs turn good people into liars, deceivers, manipulators, home-wreckers...the list goes on and on..

I am a God-fearing woman who loves the Lord.

If you are a God fearing woman, then be honest and realize you became a liar, deceiver & manipulator prior to even taking the first step into adultery. Adultery didn't "turn" you into anything..... You made every single choice, and no one held a gun to your head either.

I agree, tst. That was an amazingly angry, fogged out post written by a wayward mind. Accepting responsibility for your crime is the first step in recovery and you have not even taken the first basic step.

You blame your husband and as long as he is to blame, you are not responsible. You don't even admit that you CHOSE to be a liar, deceiver and manipulator, home wrecker. You didn't do that, the "affair" did that. That is fogged out bullcrap that we hear from folks who are still in an affair.

If you are a "God fearing woman" you will stop lying, stop blameshifting and get honest. This is not honesty.


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MelodyLane #2393010 06/18/10 10:28 PM
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It really gets on my nerves sometimes that Mel, Mark, and tst are so smart. Who do they think they are anyway??????

hee hee....my lithium is working realllllllly well tonight. g'night!

Tawandabelle #2393012 06/18/10 10:34 PM
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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
It really gets on my nerves sometimes that Mel, Mark, and tst are so smart. Who do they think they are anyway??????

hee hee....my lithium is working realllllllly well tonight. g'night!



Just Shaddup and worship...[Linked Image from pic4ever.com].



[Linked Image from pic4ever.com] Your medicine doesnt make you see anything funny, does it? Liiikke monkeys on washing machines?






BW me-41
WH -39
DS - 9
married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered
DDay aug 2007
found MB dec 2007
Moved out april 2008
still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
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WHOOOOAAAA....Wait a minute.....

I never said an affair was alright or OK. EVER. I never said that the BS did not have the moral high ground. I never said that unmet emotional needs were justifiable EXCUSES for an affair. I simply said that unmet emotional needs were reasons most affairs happen. The CAUSE is the WS's failure to deal with those needs in an appropriate, morally aligned, and productive way. I keep reading the same chapter of the book over and over.

Dr. Harley states that "each person in the drama helped create the conditions that made the affair possible."

BS - failure to meet WS emotional needs
WS - failure to be honest about loss of feelings for BS and growing feelings for OP
OP - guilty of befriending a married person

Does the BS has moral high ground? HECK YES. WS takes a morally wrong means to an end to their pain. I fully admit that I became a liar, deceiver, home-wrecker, manipulator...etc. before and during my A.








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Much different than your first post on this thread.....


BW me-41
WH -39
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married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered
DDay aug 2007
found MB dec 2007
Moved out april 2008
still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
pianogal01 #2393018 06/18/10 10:49 PM
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Originally Posted by pianogal01
I never said that the BS did not have the moral high ground.

That sounds enormously better than this very inappropriate, FOGGY, blame the victim comment:

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I get frustrated reading all these "holier than thou" posts because they are the BS and could control themselves while the WS is dirt.

I was hearing a strange sound when I read that comment. crazy


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
It really gets on my nerves sometimes that Mel, Mark, and tst are so smart. Who do they think they are anyway??????

hee hee....my lithium is working realllllllly well tonight. g'night!

kiss


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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I got a Mel kiss...nenernenernener!!!!

I'll never watch this screen again.

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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
I got a Mel kiss...nenernenernener!!!!

I'll never watch this screen again.

grin


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
I got a Mel kiss...nenernenernener!!!!

I'll never watch this screen again.

that'll make typing difficult grin


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Originally Posted by lildoggie
Originally Posted by lurioosi2
I got a Mel kiss...nenernenernener!!!!

I'll never watch this screen again.

that'll make typing difficult grin
Not for her. She never watches what she's posting anyway...

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