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The thing about him is, he is living with his parents right now.
Everyone in my family keeps telling me just give her space, and to stop torturing myself over it. OK so you dont want to fix the Marriage? Then just file for Divorce and get this over with.
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Found this in regards to martial assests in Michigan (I thought you said you were in MI)
"The court looks at property as marital or separate assets. Byington v. Byington, 224 Mich. 103, 568 N.W.2d 141 (1997); Reeves v. Reeves, 226 Mich. App. 490, 575 N.W.2d 1 (1997). Assets that are accumulated during a period of cohabitation before the marriage are not marital property. Marital property is that property accumulated through the joint efforts of the parties during the marriage. Leverich v. Leverich, 340 Mich. 133, 64 N.W.2d 567 (1954). It includes any assets earned up to the date of judgment (even if received after judgment). Byington, supra."
Me - BS Him - WS Discovery 3/26/10 NC letter mailed 5/27/10 NC letter recieved 5/29/10 My Thread Recovery may not be an option. Seriously looking a plan B/D
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Found this in regards to martial assests in Michigan (I thought you said you were in MI)
"The court looks at property as marital or separate assets. Byington v. Byington, 224 Mich. 103, 568 N.W.2d 141 (1997); Reeves v. Reeves, 226 Mich. App. 490, 575 N.W.2d 1 (1997). Assets that are accumulated during a period of cohabitation before the marriage are not marital property. Marital property is that property accumulated through the joint efforts of the parties during the marriage. Leverich v. Leverich, 340 Mich. 133, 64 N.W.2d 567 (1954). It includes any assets earned up to the date of judgment (even if received after judgment). Byington, supra." MOVE BACK IN NOW!!!!!
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Everyone in my family keeps telling me just give her space, You've read the basic concepts, right? You saw how the love bank works, with deposits and withdrawals? If you give her space, and you guys stop making deposits, what happens to her feelings of love for you? What happens to your feelings of love for her? and to stop torturing myself over it. Yes, it would be wonderful if we could just not feel bad when people hurt us. That would be great advice if we could just change the way we feel. But the truth is, feelings follow actions. If you try to save your marriage and succeed, how are you going to feel? If you try and fail, how are you going to feel? If you don't try at all, how will you feel?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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What's your decision steve? Are you going to sit there and watch your marriage fall apart?
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Are you going to do something NOW, to change it and start doing something about it?
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I think i need more proof before i do anything. Him just being there does not even tell me they're having an affair at all. I dont mean to be an idiot, but how can i get more proof, if they're cheating they'd just do it at our place where i already know they go sometimes. The first thing you need to do is move home. Get your butt back in there. After that, start snooping. Put a keylogger on the computer that she uses. That will get you info on her emails. Check her Facebook account for postings between them if she has one. Buy a VAR (voice-activated recorder) and put it in a hidden place in her car. Check her text messages and cell phone activity on the cell phone bill. Check any bank statements for unusual purchases. Check the car for any unusual items. I'm sorry to be blunt, but look for condoms/condom wrappers/soiled panties under the seats. Same goes for (sorry again) under the bed and in the bathroom wastebasket. That should get you started.
D-Day 2-10-2009
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And I've got to add, stev - this is war. You are in a war for your M. What I've told you to do may sound extreme. Trust me, it is not. You are not invading her privacy. You are invading her secrecy, which she has no right to have and withhold from you.
After you've confirmed the A, you need to be ready to expose it to the world at large - that's if you wish to kill the A, of course. I'm assuming you do. We'll help you with exposure after you've confirmed the A.
Do not tell her about this site. Do not threaten her by saying you're going to tell anyone about the A. It will drive the A underground and make it harder to kill. Come here first with your confirmation. This is critical.
Don't listen to anything she says. If she says the sun came up this morning, verify it. Waywards are notorious liars.
Consider hiring a private investigator.
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Please listen! If you have any hope of saving this, please do what you are asked.
And one more please: get tested for STDs. Your regular doctor can do it; they have heard it all!
Me: BW, 46
Him: WH, 48
EA/PA with co-worker 8-08 to 7-09
D-day 7-29
NC 8-17
OW and WH both fired from jobs
OW lost court case for restraining order- judge called her a "practiced deciever" who manufactured evidence!!
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