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I recently found out that my WH's first AP from 15 yrs ago
has a child that could possibly be his.
I have seen a picture of this child and he looks to be
about my youngest daughter's age(14yrs.) I was 12 wks.
pregnant when I found out about the A,(which lasted 6wks).
My question is.....should I do anything about this, or
just let it be? My inclination is to forget about it, but
curiousity may overwhelm me!
BW(me)41
WH 40
DD19, DS16, DD14.
M19 yrs. Together 21yrs
D-Day 05/05/2010
Trying to work on M together with MB principles.
What's meant to be will always find a way.
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Forget about it.......NOW!!!! Don't borrow trouble.....
Me: BS age 35 POS-eX-the SORRIEST, CRUELEST, LOWLY WAYWARD SCUMBAG out there Married 14.5 years, together almost 16 DDay: 7-5-09 OC born: 7-23-09 no COM: tried 6 years  D filed 5/05/2011 D final 11/10/11 I was gaslighted for 2 years. "You were not built for a safe story. Take risks and feel what it is like to actually be brave. It's worth it." Carlos Whittaker
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Did the xOW file child support or reach out to your FWH? If not, then I agree with migs to just forget about it. Don't stir up trouble.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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FAGITABOUTIT
it's been 14 years. if she hasn't looked your h up yet she may be as happy as a clam in her new life
me-59 ww-55
married 1979 - together since 1974
6 kids together 15,19,21,23,29,30
my oldest son 37
d-day (confession day) memorial day 2001
oc born 12/20/01
now 8 grandchildren
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Thank you all for your replies. I will FAGITABOUTIT!
BW(me)41
WH 40
DD19, DS16, DD14.
M19 yrs. Together 21yrs
D-Day 05/05/2010
Trying to work on M together with MB principles.
What's meant to be will always find a way.
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sunshine, this, on your first thread, bothers me greatly: Just a quick question. If you have read my thread than you know this is my WH's 2nd A. The first A happened 14 yrs.ago. This new A has stirred up memories of the 1st A. Back in '96 we didn't have cell phones, texting, internet, and FB. I really did not have closure for that A at all. Meaning we both just never again in 14 yrs talked about it. That is until DDay of 2nd A, which was 5/5/10. I asked WH if he ever contacted the OW from A #1, and he said "never". Well, needless to say this comment has been eating at me since DDay. We all know we can't believe what comes out of the Wayward's mouth! Let me tell you that in A #1 14 yrs.ago, I called the OW and found out for a fact about the A. OW said she was falling in 'love' with my WH. Ugh! Fast forward to today..... I found OW #1 FB page and am wanting to contact her!! Just to find out if WH did tell me the truth, and they have not seen or heard from each other in 14 yrs. I think I know what y'all are gonna say, but, I've been surprise by comments on here before. I don't want to open a can of worms. I feel I need to know if my WH is telling the truth! Thanks! I hope this all makes sense!! Perhaps I'm over-sensitive, because my H had a 3.5-year PA and followed that up with 5 more years of contact with OW. They maintained phone contact through their workplaces, where I was powerless to monitor. How would you know if he had been in contact with her and the child all this time?
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Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Seeing Sugercane's reply, I have to wonder too if WH is indeed being honest. Doesn't Sunshine deserve to know the truth--not about possible OC but about WH's infidelity?
Don't get me wrong--I definitely don't think Sunshine should try to get in touch with OW of 14 years ago. If you stir things up, Sunshine, you could end up in court paying back child support plus court costs and it could ruin you financially AND emotionally!
But is there any way to find out the truth about WH's honesty without putting them at risk?
Me: WW
BH
DD(4)
DS(2)
DD(1)
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11)
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