It helps in the long run but you need something that works instantly. I can't remember the name but theygave me something that started out as a allergy med but it worked on anxiety. Non habit forming and worked in 30 mins.

You may be able to file for some kind of hardship/assistance on the mortgage.

I just wish I had answers. I feel
Like a crazy person. I'm fine then not then sad then mad then fine

confused and torn,

I want you to think back to a week ago, already your life is different and you didn't know up from down then, this is the same it is hard to believe in what the future holds, all any of us can do is the right thing and then let it all play out, knowing we have choices always...........
When one door closes another one opens, driving a stick is not a problem it is one of those things that seems impossible but really is easy and even fun......
Get the facts before you decide or panic, don't waste precious energy.
There is an answer to every problem there probably isn't a problem that hasn't come up on this board, others will be able to help and suggest solutions.
For now sit back and wait have that $2 coffee and relax a little.......

For confused.
http://www.cptryon.org/prayer/special/serenity.html

What Luvsdavid says, may be not such a bad idea. They probably gave her an antihistaminicum.
You'd have to ask your doctor if you can combine it with the medication you are on.
The good thing would be, it also works against sickness and throwing up, which you mentioned you do wenn under stress.

They can make you sleepy and/or hungry (real hungry in my case - I would wake up in the middle of the night to search for food!)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doxylamine

God bless,
Happyheart

I go back to the dr next week (psychiatrist). It's hard bc my tummy is so upset. I've lost 6 lbs now (nit that I couldn't stand to lose 10 more).

He left a message for his boss and we haven't heard. The brought up the stupid suggestions...but Wh thinks that they won't have anything for him..his negativity about that freaks me out..he knows them better than I do....

Ugh. It is a lot to ask of a company (of course we didn't ask). Do they have any legal obligation to humor him, since he said he can't work in that environment?

*** remember I'm not a doctor nor do I play one on TV so please talk to your doctor about this.***************

I found my bottle now that I'm home. It was Vistaril. I had the generic and it only cost like 5 bucks to fill it.

It worked great and I didnt have any side effects.

Please contact your doctor and tell them you need a fast acting medication for anxiety while waiting on the cymbalta to work.

Also if you are worried about the price of cymbalta without insurance, I take generic Effexor which is only 15 a month. It is the older version of Cymbalta so your doc could try that if you lose your insurance.

I use this online pharmacy for all my "daily" meds and it is much cheaper. I recommend them to anyone.

http://www.rxoutreach.org/

Thank you

no problem, I want this to work out for you.

This might help you a bit.
I'm 40 years old and my husband is 34. We were planning on building a rescue boarding kennel. This is very low income but would pay the bills. I had a date that I would quit my job and start working on the kennels. He was going to continue working for at least 3 more months then start working with me and doing mechanic work on the side.

Well, the kennels have taken longer to get going than we planned and my job had already been filled so I was not able to extend my job and he got fired 3 days after my last day.

I have used all my 401k to live off of for the last 2 months and put toward the new business we are building together.

He has a good job again (2 weeks in) but it will barely pay the bills and no insurance at all offered. (it will come out of our pocket)

Ok, here is the priorities. I'm considering taking the last $900 left in HIS 401k to do the online program because we are stuck in the recovery process.

I know we could lose the house and the business becuase the buisiness is in the back yard but I would rather live in an RV in love with my husband than go it alone. (we have 8 dogs which are our kids so that would be tight)

It is scary as heck but I'm going to do what I have to do to get this marriage back on track. I believe he is worth it and so am I.

Ok so he just got off the phone with HR.

They said they need more time and don't have an answer...but because they need more time, they are on,y deducting vacation days for last Friday and for Monday, and the rest they are just paying as if he where there (he's salary so this is legal).

They hope to have an answer early this week...

Does anyone have any opinion on if this is good or bad

Sounds like they are still considering their options. At least it's not an outright No right now.

It may be because I'm twice your age, but believe me, these financial issues have a way of working themselves out. And we've been through a BUNCH of them (bankruptcy, foreclosure, several layoffs, one right before we broke ground for a new house we were building. Dh had a new job in 3 weeks!)

I tend to give God the credit for all this. But even if you don't have faith, it says in the scriptures that He still takes care of you (He causes the rain to fall on the just and unjust). Not that you're unjust!

Put the most important things (marriage, relationships) first. The other part will take care of itself. That doesn't mean you don't try or make plans, but making plans is WAY different from worrying and fussing!!

BTW, we've currently been without insurance for 22 months and we have 8 kids (6 still at home). I just prayed that we not need it until we can have it again. We'll have it in 5.5 months. I'm not sweating it. We've even had big things happen (my appendectomy) that weren't fully covered in the past, the hospital is fine with my small monthly payments.

Now get your focus back onto recovery!!

He keeps trying to reassure me....blah!

I cancelled the Halloween party tomorrow and while I didn't tell my mom what was going on(for reasons I mentioned earlier it's safer she's in the dark) I did tell her we are having problems and also that his job is in jeopardy. She offered to take my kids and agreed my marriage should be first. She also said we have to weather whatever it is no matter what, short of murder.

Surprising bc she never liked him

You haven't told her? You should. She could be a wealth of support for you.

Don't get all crazy with the weight loss, sister. I can tell you that I did. I was just fine with not eating for days at a time. My appetite was shot. So I thought "Well, why eat if I'm not hungry?" The OW was thinner than me, so I figured that must have attracted my H to her.

I probably could have stood to lose 10-15 pounds. I lost about 60 lbs before I saw myself in the mirror, totally nude, and was shocked at how bad I really looked. I went from a size 12/14 to a size 4 and was trying on size 2's. I thought that was great - surely I had the 'thin' thing covered!

I looked SICK. I've seen pictures of me at my thinnest and they shock me.
If you've looked on the MB photo thread you'll find my picture - check out my neck. Yuck! Talk about skinny~ And that was about 20 lbs before I starting taking care of myself. I looked a lot worse before I was done witht the starving thing. Stuff that food in. Nutritious stuff. Be kind and good to yourself. You are THAT important.

Oh don't worry I couldn't get that thin. My appetite is starting to come back...and I have to eat bc of the marathon training or I'll faint. Don't worry.

I can't tell my mom. Not now. She is overthetop...I'm serious she might kill him. Like I'm serious. My grandmas first words where "lord help him don't tell your mother if you plan to fix this"...

She's to unstable. Im to scared. There is a small chance shed be ok but a bigger much bigger chance that would be the straw that kills my marriage

Plus Wh keeps trying to stuff food down my face. Brought me cupcakes today, pizza yesterday, opened wine for tonight....

Keeps putting bkfst sandwiches in my purse....

Pizza and wine....yum!

I think you're underestimating your mother. Don't get me wrong - she may be ready to kill him. But she's going to follow YOUR lead. Her priority is you - when she realizes you have a solid recovery support system she will get on board.

I would suggest you tell her that you have a lot of support from other survivors. Direct her to this website if you are comfortable with her seeing your posts. If you're not comfortable, don't tell her you're posting here. Just tell her you've found a great place that will help you recover your marriage.