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P.S. I vote for a wayward nickname. He is not your hubby until he agrees NC. He is a wayward and speaks only babble. Yeah, I need a nickname, it will help with distancing the man I thought I married to who he is now. Months ago I thought about Darth Vader due to his crossing over to "the dark side" but then I read peachy's thread. Peter Pan? (boy who never grew up and flew off to neverland) Wildebeest? (a grazer and IMO not the smartest of animals) Chewbacca? (can't make sense of a thing he says...) Anyone got any suggestions?
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Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Anyone got any suggestions? Shrimp on the Barbie? Barbie for short? Or Shrimp maybe? Dunno, what about Sheila?
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Shrimp on the Barbie? Barbie for short? Or Shrimp maybe?
Dunno, what about Sheila? Shrimp... he's 6 foot 6, but something grabs me about that. Sheila?  Aah CP, you are being very politically incorrect, but it IS funny! Keep em coming!
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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How about BigShow?
Like the wrestler. Tall, but doesn't seem to have a lot going on upstairs.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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How about BigShow?
Like the wrestler. Tall, but doesn't seem to have a lot going on upstairs. THIS gets MY vote(sorry CP).
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I like the big show too.
Isn't a Shelia another slang term you Aussies use for women?
Ok, Ok, I know being a wayward isn't a sexual orientation, and I don't mean to imply it is female in its nature.
Just going for funny really. Plus thought it might tick him off a little,,,but thats not what we are here for.
I am sure something will strike you soon, that is related to him and this pinocchio attempt at becoming a real boy he is playing.
Whatever it is it should add to your emotional separation from this game he is playing, and you are separating yourself and the pain from it also.
How about "hot wheels" because of the car thing?
It should make you chuckle a little
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Chewbacca made me chuckle, but I dont know that we should slander innocent wookies - what did they ever do wrong?
I think CP has wandered onto something good with 'pinocchio'
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Chewbacca made me chuckle, but I dont know that we should slander innocent wookies - what did they ever do wrong?
I think CP has wandered onto something good with 'pinocchio' Yea, I was thinking "Pinocchio" would be good as well. We could shorten it to "Pin" quite nicely. 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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"Pin-head"? (You knew I would go there Scotty  )
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If you are, by chance, a Lord of the Rings fan.....
My fave for WHs is Gollum.
Smeagol is in there somewhere under the corrupted being who lusts for the power of the ring and is off in Mordor.
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Gollum!!!!!!!
My 'precious' or rather my 'soulmate schmoopie'!
Love it!!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Gollum is cool, awful though, but appropriate trying to own and keep secret the power of love, as he understood it's power in his small mind
He hid it too, and thought it was his alone doing such
I vote for gollum
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I remember a cartoon called Beavis and Bu**head .It is about two sex obsessed teenagers.Your H sounds like mine unable to face growing old and thought a 16yr age gap was the answer.
I would like to propose Bu**head.
It fits!!!!!!
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Gollum it is. It just fits. There are so many similarities, a once respected and honest man, turned into a pitiful and crafty creature who will sacrifice anything and anyone for his "precious".
The mental image of him as Gollum helps me... wish I had renamed WH during Plan A! I really think doing this could help BS's deal with the possession of their previously moral and upstanding spouse.
Thanks everyone for the suggestions, and karma, hope you don't mind me using this one.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
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As a fantasy fan, I'm good with it.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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That's why I've taken to referring to another woman as Shelob.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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That's why I've taken to referring to another woman as Shelob. I've named her Horse Ho. But Shelob???
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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If you're asking what I think you're asking (and I apologize if you aren't)--
Shelob is the spider in the second book of the LOTR that bites Frodo and causes Sam to think that he's dead.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I think this time of year makes it difficult for us Plan B'ers. Things I hadn't expected or prepared for but will know better. Christmas and a New Year has brought a lot of people out of the woodwork for me. These people were not exposure targets. I realise with benefit of hindsight, it is easier to expose to too many than too few. Now I am in a position of havingt to tell people of Gollum's affair or let it slide, something that is not beneficial for Plan B. One of the couples particularly close to us I decided to tell briefly. I hadn't heard a response for over a month and thought... "another friend bites the dust", something I sadly am becoming resigned to. Until today  . They emailed to say that they were in shock about Gollum. They complimented me as a woman and wife, and indicated they were unsure how they would react to Gollum. They may not need to bother, as apparently Gollum has been avoiding them. Yeah, a crack in Plan B. This allows me to see the extent of his selfishness, as the reason they originally contacted me was to announce their pregnancy, and Gollum has not bothered to offer any congratulations!!! Argh, wayturds. This reinforces to follow vets advice. Over exposure is better than under exposure. I regret not having exposed to EVERYONE.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
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If you're asking what I think you're asking (and I apologize if you aren't)--
Shelob is the spider in the second book of the LOTR that bites Frodo and causes Sam to think that he's dead. I knew who it was KR, because I just watched the trilogy again Lol. Of course the flicks dont go into Shelob as much as the books, she was greatly feared by all of them. Tolkiens use of creatures displaying human characteristics was awesome.
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