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Originally Posted By: Krazy71
Thank you both!

I'm happy to say I'm a different person altogether.


This pleases me greatly.

I'm so happy for you Krazyman.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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(Of course I also did two weeks in the sin-bin here - a year ago today, as a matter of fact!)

Happy Anniversary, NG!

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Krazy, It's nice to hear you're doing so much better!





Recovery began 10/07;

Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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I think that your story will help prove that Plan B sure as heck does help people. I wonder though, who was the second most angry person on the boards? WE got 1st, and 3rd recorded, but no 2nd. i haven't been around long enough to know.

Nice to "meet" you Krazy


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If you take Mel with you, you don't need a gun.


Chuck Norris is scared of MelodyLane.


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Kids wear Superman pajamas.
Superman wears Chuck Norris pajamas.
Chuck Norris wears MelodyLane pajamas.

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you people are regular comedians!! naughty




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Kids wear Superman pajamas.
Superman wears Chuck Norris pajamas.
Chuck Norris wears MelodyLane pajamas.

rotflmao


rotflmao rotflmao hurray

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If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

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I remember the angry phase. It was very intense and filled my head with dark thoughts. I remember feeling like my arms were going to explode and my head pounded and I wanted to break something. It took a good friend of mine to make me face my own anger.

I got banned temporarily from this forum for advocating that a BH who had no kids should walk away, count his blessings, and never look back. I advocated that viewpoint one too many times for a particular BH and got a 2 week ban.

I still hold that view, though I dont keep repeating it once it is said one time.

But I remember your anger. I remember your advice which generally focused on dropping the WS. I think a BS who adopts the attitude that their WS is disposable stands the best chance of recovery. Accepting that they are replaceable is empowering.

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Originally Posted By: Krazy71

I was really angry.



Krazy, lemme ask you this.
While you were really angry, did people with a sunny disposition annoy you beyond reason?


Oh yes..."annoy" would be an extreme understatement.


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Originally Posted By: helpthelostdads
I remember the angry phase. It was very intense and filled my head with dark thoughts. I remember feeling like my arms were going to explode and my head pounded and I wanted to break something. It took a good friend of mine to make me face my own anger.

I got banned temporarily from this forum for advocating that a BH who had no kids should walk away, count his blessings, and never look back. I advocated that viewpoint one too many times for a particular BH and got a 2 week ban.

I still hold that view, though I dont keep repeating it once it is said one time.

But I remember your anger. I remember your advice which generally focused on dropping the WS. I think a BS who adopts the attitude that their WS is disposable stands the best chance of recovery. Accepting that they are replaceable is empowering.


I have my beliefs and they are set in stone, but I've learned to keep them to myself unless I'm asked.


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Krazy,

I remember many of your posts from the summer and fall of 2008, when I was new to MB. At the time, I thought anger was sort of a natural state.

Glad you are doing well.

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Krazy,

I remember many of your posts from the summer and fall of 2008, when I was new to MB. At the time, I thought anger was sort of a natural state.

Glad you are doing well.

AM


Thank you very much.

Anger is a sickness that starts as an emotional illness, then progresses to a physical condition if left untreated. It's the big bad brother of basic stress.


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I would worry tremendously about anyone who experienced infidelity and didn't go through anger and rage. The operative word being "through".

I'm SO GLAD you have made it through.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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Me too! Now that I've made it through, I've tried to give advice to a few other BSs. They are some of the most frustrating people on Earth because they NEVER LISTEN!!

Good grief, most of them have their head so far up the WSs [censored] that a crowbar is needed to extract them. LOL


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Originally Posted By: Pepperband
Originally Posted By: Krazy71

I was really angry.



Krazy, lemme ask you this.
While you were really angry, did people with a sunny disposition annoy you beyond reason?


Oh yes..."annoy" would be an extreme understatement.


I've been waiting for your response to this.
Thanks.
I trust your honesty. shocked
Did my particular sunny disposition annoy you?

I am using this as a teachable moment for MYSELF, not to help you. You don't need my help.
I "see" myself in a particular light, and I wonder if/when a person is in deep pain/anger .... my natural cheerfulness might be more than annoying?

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Originally Posted By: Krazy71
Originally Posted By: Pepperband
Originally Posted By: Krazy71

I was really angry.



Krazy, lemme ask you this.
While you were really angry, did people with a sunny disposition annoy you beyond reason?


Oh yes..."annoy" would be an extreme understatement.


I've been waiting for your response to this.
Thanks.
I trust your honesty. shocked
Did my particular sunny disposition annoy you?

I am using this as a teachable moment for MYSELF, not to help you. You don't need my help.
I "see" myself in a particular light, and I wonder if/when a person is in deep pain/anger .... my natural cheerfulness might be more than annoying?


I think it was more a matter of you and I having differing opinions in the areas of politics and religion. Combine that with a bottomless pit of anger and depression, and BOOM.


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Originally Posted By: Krazy71

I think it was more a matter of you and I having differing opinions in the areas of politics and religion. Combine that with a bottomless pit of anger and depression, and BOOM.


OK.
Guess what KZ?
I don't recall any political fights we had!
Plus, I don't give a damn.
I accept people who hold different opinions. Not just tolerate, accept.
Ain't life grand? rotflmao

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I could be getting you confused with another member...I do know I was debating/arguing with people when I was far too angry to be doing so in a civil manner.

Huh-huh...I said "member".


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