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Hi everyone,
I'm looking for possibly anyone in the same experience as me. I'm tall and skinny, in shape as a runner. My wife is heavily into weightlifting and bodybuilder. She's short and very built. I'd like to talk to any guy who have the same experience or situation.
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Hi, Illinois,
What problems is the situation causing for your marriage?
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The awkwardness it creates in public. At times when I see her lifting more than I can, I get very jealous.
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The awkwardness it creates in public. At times when I see her lifting more than I can, I get very jealous. My husband doesn't lift weights with me and I suspect this might be the reason. It doesn't bother him because he doesn't lift weights with me.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The awkwardness it creates in public. At times when I see her lifting more than I can, I get very jealous. My solution to that has been to get more competitive with my wife. Last year when I saw she could leg press me I upped my weight and got a little more aggressive with my program. And then I decided I wasn't comfortable with her having stronger abs than me, so I upped the weight on the exercise we were doing for that, too.  Men typically have more testosterone than women, which gives them quite a bit more potential to become stronger than women. There are exceptions, but unless your wife is on steroids or you have a hormonal issue, you can probably beat her if you apply yourself, and you will probably both think it is fun.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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So go lift. It's not going to diminish your aerobic capacity. Anaerobic exercise at the very least does not diminish your aerobic capacity and often will improve it. All around fitness will include a range of aerobic and anaerobic exercises. Weightlifting may be a good addition to the running you already do. Nothing wrong with improving your phosphagen and glycolytic abilities with some weight training. The awkwardness it creates in public. At times when I see her lifting more than I can, I get very jealous.
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Another thing you guys might do is build a home gym where you can work out together in private.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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IC,
Does she most hang out with other bodybuilders in a circle that excludes you? Or the all consuming passion that some of the lifters pursue the sport?
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From what I'm reading is you're insecure because you feel she's physically stronger than you are. And it seems that you're a bit jealous that you wish you had this strength.
This is a pretty easy solution. Go lift weights. I'd be glad to give you some tips in starting out and progressing if you want to take this to the off topic area.
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