I was wondering if any FWW would explain what was going through their heads while involved in their affairs? I'd like to try and understand the view from the fog a little better.
1. Were you able to share your love with your husband and the OM at the same time? Or you were a cold fish to husband while thinking of being with OM?
2. Did you care about your career, children, or family or were you just so consumed in the affair that you would throw everything away to allow it to continue?
3. What EN did the OM meet that was the biggest reason the affair began?
4. Was it ever just about raw sex or did you need a solid emotional connection for it to get physical?
Hi RCX,
I am a FWW in a recovered marriage. For reference, my affair occurred 7 years ago, and lasted approximately 3 months.
I presume [and I don't know, as I haven't read your story] that you are asking relative to your own situation where your WW is still engaged in a active affair? If that is the case, you are inquiring about the random head ramblings of an active addict -- and really there is not much to be gleaned by examining that conflicted wreck. What I mean is, can you see that it would be pretty pointless to offer a falling down drunk or a crack addict a penny for their thoughts? I think it would be more beneficial to ask a recovered/recovering addict how they got clean, and what they do to stay clean, but I'll leave that up to you.
All that being said, I'll answer your questions in a general sense:
1. Most women are unable to love more than one man at a time.
2. Addicts put their addiction first. Make no mistake about it, waywards are addicts.
3. I think the answer to that varies according to the ENs of the WW. In general, it's usually conversation, affection and admiration for wayward wives.
4. Most women require an emotional connection before a physical one.
Mrs. W