Will do, thanks!

Here Acronyms and Abbreviations

Here about Plan B. What are Plan A and Plan B

Here's another good read for you.

A Recovery Guide for Wayward Wive's

Welcome to MB Promises,

You are in the right place. I am a WW (wayward wife) too and while some people on here might be harsh, it's what we wayward's need to hear.

Your job situation - I would recommend doing everything possible to get out of this immediatley. I know you will hestitate, especially now that you are seperated and you potentially need to support you son too, but if you want to save your marriage you need to take extreme actions here.

My husband left me with our DD (3yrs old) and relocated them back to our hometown 5 months ago. I've been trying ever since to get a job there - to no avail. I wish now that i'd just quit immediatley and followed them. Not doing that set me up to fail and continue my relationship with the OM.

You MUST get yourself out of the situation that is playing a big part in you having affairs.

Also, use this seperation time wisely. You are here because you have no boundaries with men (i am the same - or rather have been) and this HAS to change. So use this time to learn about how to create appropriate boundaries with work colleuages.

You CAN do this... but it will be a long hard road, trust me i'm walking it now!

Here's another good read.

Traveling Jobs

Thanks so much. I am assuming Plan D is divorce?

Yes.

So what are you thinking?

I do not want a divorce. At all. I really believe in MB and that it can help me recover and recover my marriage. For so many years, I prayed to God to help me appreciate my family. But I never did anything about it. I never stopped to really think why I needed A's. But through this grueling process I have had lots of moments of self-reflection. The exposure definitely helped me to take the time to think. I had to think about the whys because thats what some of my friends and family was asking me. Now that the polygraph is back and he knows I told him everything, I feel relieved. It was almost like a baptism. Maybe thats why I let him go and I am willing to give him space. Like I said, I do not want a divorce. If he told me this minute he was coming home I would open my arms to hom and continue on the recovery process. Either way, I have to keep going, though. I have to make sure that I recover.

Thank you so much. I also don't have boundaries with men. I defintely had to learn this the hard way, i.e. my A's being exposed to those I love the most. But if this hadn't been done, I would have probably continued on my path of having my cake and eating it, too. Through MB and also some individual counselor, I am learning to form a very bold line between myself and men.

Does your BH post here?

This may help.

I'm sure your BH will need to see actions from you. One huge action you could show him is to quit your traveling job.

You need to affair proof your marriage. If your affairs happened on the road then you need to quit that traveling job.

Here's another excellent read. A Recovery Guide for Wayward Wives

Are you ready to prove to your BH?

I think her BH is AJoseJake.

He does but like I said I haven't really seen his thread at all excpet for one time he left it open like three months ago and I only read two or three posts. I don't know what his name is either and I don't know if he is still posting.

Promises83,

Please read some of the BH, "betrayed husband", threads on here I think it will help you gain some true empathy for your BH. You have some work to do.

Were the people you had affairs with over the years exposed or confronted by your H?

God Bless
Gamma

I think you're right. The story sounded familiar - serial cheater, polygraph, travels a lot - but from a BH perspective. I went looking for AJoseJake's thread but it appears to have been taken down.

Are we sure guys? Ajosejake's WW was military.

***EDIT****

AJ is seeking plan b so his thread is down due to that. The BH is AJ.

Governement agency I dot remember him saying specifically military.

I could very well be wrong; I've only had 2 cups of coffee this morning and my mind is on an upcoming work trip.

I do know that the WW's story sounded really familiar, and I knew I'd seen enough similarities in a BH thread to make me think they matched up. I went looking and couldn't find the BH thread...when someone mentioned AJJ I went looking and couldn't find the thread so I assumed that was it.

Nevermind...off for more coffee!

Just going off his words.