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Here is the Standing Order which is usually issued in my state: http://www.co.collin.tx.us/district_courts/Documents/standing_order_children.pdfSee Section 1.7 regarding overnights. You might want to read through it if there is anything else you need/want to address in your request for Temporary Orders.
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^ Yep. I put this into my parenting agreement. My lawyer told me that CA courts won't enforce this. I told her that I want it anyway because who would take this kind of thing out--only someone who wants to do it!! So if makes him look terrible.
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In thinking about this, I guess including "everything" and coming out "guns blazing" would be listing every detail - like every time he didn't come when he said and the time he took the baby for 4 1/2 hours and brought her home in the same diaper she was wearing when he picked her up. I have all this stuff written down, but do I need to list it out for the court? That level of detail is not needed in the Original Petition. It shouldn't be a book. Cite the fault and if you are able to maybe include OW's name as the AP in the Petition and not just the decree. That way she can be identified and specifically named as someone who you do not want having contact with your children...if you are asking for that in Orders. That hadn't occurred to me to ask - will the court really grant that? It IS pretty much a guarantee that it will not be included if you do not petition for it. Get it done, even if your own attorney knocks down the suggestion, but I think you have one that seems to want to work towards your directions. LTL
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^ Yep. I put this into my parenting agreement. My lawyer told me that CA courts won't enforce this. I told her that I want it anyway because who would take this kind of thing out--only someone who wants to do it!! So if makes him look terrible. ^^^^^Like^^^^^
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^ Yep. I put this into my parenting agreement. My lawyer told me that CA courts won't enforce this. I told her that I want it anyway because who would take this kind of thing out--only someone who wants to do it!! So if makes him look terrible. ^^^^^Like^^^^^ Me, too.
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In thinking about this, I guess including "everything" and coming out "guns blazing" would be listing every detail - like every time he didn't come when he said and the time he took the baby for 4 1/2 hours and brought her home in the same diaper she was wearing when he picked her up. I have all this stuff written down, but do I need to list it out for the court? That level of detail is not needed in the Original Petition. It shouldn't be a book. Cite the fault and if you are able to maybe include OW's name as the AP in the Petition and not just the decree. That way she can be identified and specifically named as someone who you do not want having contact with your children...if you are asking for that in Orders. That hadn't occurred to me to ask - will the court really grant that? It IS pretty much a guarantee that it will not be included if you do not petition for it. Get it done, even if your own attorney knocks down the suggestion, but I think you have one that seems to want to work towards your directions. LTL Haha yes, if I don't ask for it I can't expect to get it.
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Thanks - I will read through that!
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With all the snow and ice, my windshield cracked. It needs to be replaced. It would be covered by insurance but we have a large deductible. So, it's going to be bout 200 dollars out of pocket. I don't have it. Do I just put it on our credit card? Ask WH for the money?
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Who do you have for insurance? Some insurance companies waive the deductible for that work if you go to a specific shop that they partner with.
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I called and asked if the deductible would apply, and they said yes. Unfortunately.
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Darn. Well, I'll have to let one of the vets answer your question.
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Darn. Well, I'll have to let one of the vets answer your question. Thanks anyway. 
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OK, he put money in my account. Some on march 4 and more yesterday. I don't know why the march 4 was then instead of the agreed upon last week of Feb, but the tax refund came yesterday and he immediately put money in my account. Now I am hesitant to file for a D I don't want when my reason was financial. Talk to me.
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Do you want to go through this every month? You didn't now how you were going to eat just a while back.
I'd wait for the vet's advice, honestly, my thinking is that you need to get whatever legal protections and financial support you can in place for you and your kids. If you file, you could possibly delay the final judgement (check with your state rules). And if he comes to his senses after a D, you could always remarry the guy.
In the meanwhile, you need to take care of yourself and your kids and that means not being completely stressed out each month. Plan B is all about you healing in peace.
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OK, he put money in my account. Some on march 4 and more yesterday. I don't know why the march 4 was then instead of the agreed upon last week of Feb, but the tax refund came yesterday and he immediately put money in my account. Now I am hesitant to file for a D I don't want when my reason was financial. Talk to me. You can't leave yourself at the mercy of his whim every month. You still need to file because you are very vulnerable right now ...........and he knows this. And has used this. Just get legal protection in place and you are protected and can relax. When we send him the letter, you will still tell him that you don't want a divorce but are only getting legal protections in place.
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Do you want to go through this every month? You didn't now how you were going to eat just a while back. Agree! Don't place yourself and your children at the mercy of a selfish, self centered wayward.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I guess I was thinking "oh, he j
didn't have the money, and he gave it as soon as he did - he wasn't just trying to Jerome around" BUT you're right. If that was the case and he had communicated (or, idk, figured out a way to get us too money) that would be not jerking me around. Thanks. I'll go by the lawyer's office today.
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So now I am supposed to decide whether to ask for the house. Any reason to or not to?
^^^Oh, and "Jerome around" should be "jerk me around"
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Will you be able to afford the house ?
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Of course...you need the house. YOu have all the kids!
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