My girl has seemed a little bored lately and while I am at work she has been taking our 4 year old on day outings. I got a little upset when i got home and i didn't hear from her for a few hours. I gave her the silent treatment for most of the night till close to bedtime(I realize how childish that is). I told her that maybe if she likes to spend time alone she could go stay with her mother for a few days(again stupid). We then had a long conversation about our relationship, I told her i didn't know why i was being a child about it and should have just come out and said that I was upset. She told me that she hasn't been happy with us in awhile and things are going to have to change. A few things like me getting real angry and yelling at her when she does something i don't like. She says she is scared to tell me things because she is scared of me getting mad at her. She wants to go to school but we agreed that she would after i finish(i haven't been in a year)and she fears she will never go. I got real upset because i never thought we were having problems at all. I told her that i loved her and never want to break up, and if we do i would never get to see our child. She says of coarse you would, we would find a way. I told her that everything she said makes perfect since, and now i know what i need to do i will make it my top priority. I asked what she wanted, to stay together or break up. She told me she didn't know because it was too late to think and was too tired. The next day i texted her that i didn't want to pressure/rush her but i wanted to know if we were going to be okay. She said "I think so, lets see where it goes and we both have a lot to work on". Over the next few days we have been pretty normal except we are not sitting together and we don't cuddle in bed before sleeping like usual.(she has always been the one to come to me for cuddling stuff)
I'm going to try my best to make her see she is my top priority and that i can fix everything she wants. Do I still have a chance? What else can i do? Should I be the one doing the cuddling and hand holding or does she need space? Should i ask if we should try marriage counseling?

Are you married?

yes

Of course you can fix it.

You tell her that you love her and want to be married to her. Not in an average married to her, but that you want a good marriage wher you are in love with each other.
Start planning 15-20 hours a week of dating her with fun outings. Ask her if she will fill out the emotional needs questionaire with you.

Stop your angry reactions immediately and for good. If you can't, take anger management.

What are you doing to stop your angry outbursts?

Have you read the section on here about Love Busters?

Me and my fianc� have been having some small fights lately(mostly my fault), and it�s been a trying past few weeks.� �She has been real distance for a few months as well.� I did something I have never done before which was to look at her phone, and found out she has been talking to some guy.� I confronted her about it and she admitted that it was true.� She says all it has been is some texting/sexting and they kissed a few times,� for some reason I do believe her. We talked about what might happen in the future either way (together or not). She says she doesnt know want she wants and she will have to think about it. I really think we should move back to our home state where my family is and that would make it easier and give us a fresh start. I did tell her thats just my suggestion and i will wait to see what she decide she wants. How long do i need to give her? I need to know so i can start to forgive her and plan for my/our future. Its killling my not to know if we are staying together or not. Any other advice on what i should do would be great.

Slath, it would probably be best to stick to one thread so that we can see your whole situation.

You and this woman have a four year old, and you are engaged, but not married. You have angry outbursts. Just a couple of things I got from looking at your other thread. There are some questions there that you were asked and you didn't answer.

It sounds like she isn't very committed to you, which makes sense to me since you have been with her this long without marrying her and you have been abusing her (love busters).

Do you have children together?

How can we help when you lie to us? On the other thread she's a fiance. What's the truth?

Slath,

You wrote, She says all it has been is some texting/sexting and they kissed a few times,

Given the intensity of phone/internet affairs it is very unlikely that they could stop at kissing. They already engaged in virtual sex, and your GF has to come clean before you can proceed with your relationship or marriage.

Waywards minimize if they say only once it means a month if they say kissing it means they think you will fall for that line.

Find this OM and expose him to his wife / GF /family, also try to get the evidence and forward it to your own account.

Gamma

He doesn't have the right to expose a woman that he is not married to. It is not an affair.

If he wanted the rights and privileges of a husband, he should have married her.