I was trying to find a way to chat, if anyone wants to...there is a chat room in Infidelity.com relationships 101, I think will work? All you have to put in is a nickname and makeup a password. <P><A HREF="http://infidelity.com/live_chat/relationship_chat.html" TARGET=_blank>Chat at Infidelity.com</A>

Hello,<P>I would love to chat sometime with you. I would also like to get a womans perspective on my situation.<P>I hope you are doing okay. I will check back tonight after 10:30 pm my time for a reply from you.<P>Thanks K

kicker14:<P>Ok, just click on the link and come over for a chat. I should be there. <P>

Just remember how many affairs started as chat room conversations. There is a very good reason why Marriage Builders does not have online chat...<P>Even so, some of our members have wound up in inappropriate situations as a result of correspondence off of the forum. Remember that if you are considering corresponding with members of the opposite sex off of the forum.<P>kicker14, there are plenty of women right here on the forum who would be more than willing to share their woman's perspective. I would suggest that you make it a point not to correspond with any females while you are in such a hurt state of mind. We are all very vulnerable while our marriages are so upside down.<P>Just MNSHO...

terri:<P>I certainly didn't mean to start any controversy here. I thought it would be nice to chat, vent with others in similar situtations. Wouldn't it be better to have chat among MB's members that want to chat than to go elsewhere? I didn't like the very few chat rooms I've seen. A monitored chat room would be more ideal. I can also understand your concerns.<P>I realize that affairs may have started in chat rooms, but on the other hand if someone is looking they will probably find it somewhere. <P>I'm certainly not looking, as a BS I wouldn't put myself in that position, nor do I have any desire to. As stupid as this sounds, even though WH is living with OW, I would feel like I was cheating. <P>I wondered why MB didn't have a chat online? Sometimes people need help, advice or support in which a chat would seem more advantageous & immediate other than posting and waiting for a possible reply. Even though replies to the posts are greatly appreciated and helpful.<P>Sorry, to hear that some members have wound up in inappropriate situations resulting from correspondence off of the forum. Unfortunately we all sometimes make wrong choices. Isn't that why most of us are here? <P>I correspond with both male & female and find this beneficial for the different point of views. I would think it difficult to exclude oneself from conversing with the opposite sex because of the frame of mind their marital turmoil has left them. I myself do not feel vulnerable, but I could see that some individuals might be. <P>A male friend of mine & I talk because we are both BS's and our WS's found OP's. We both know we are friends(ONLY), going through the hurt and wouldn't even think about or want it otherwise. We both still have deep feelings for our WS's, are still suffering and have absolutely NO desire whatsoever of getting into any relationship with the opposite sex. I know the wounds, betrayal, pain and hurt (in my case)are enough to prevent any involvement of that kind. <P>I know our marriages are upside down, but I hope our brains haven't fallen out. (What little I probably have left anyway.)<P>Just some thoughts.<BR>Take care and May God Bless.<BR>

<B>Hurtwife</B>,<P>The whole thing of opposite sex on-line communications has been discussed from time to time, and tends to be an area of disagreement. Here's <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/009139.html" TARGET=_blank>one thread</A> about private emailing. The same dangers occur in IMing, probably to a greater extent.<P>I don't stay away from all opposite sex interaction, but agree that caution is advisable. Yes, there have been some problems, even here. It tends to depend on the health of a person's boundaries IMO.<P>Anyway, you can read the link and see what you think.<P>Steve

Hi all,<P>Hey Steve, good choice of threads to point to... I was gonna do it, but you beat me to it.<P>I certainly can't say "Don't do it" but I can say that there is a danger...<P>NOBODY, NO-BODY, is free and clear from the possibility of having an affair.<P>My experience, and I've spewed it quite frequently around here is this:<P>NEVER SAY NEVER<P>The last time I said that, I fell flat on my face.<P>Just be careful, especially if you are feeling vulnerable.

Some from MB have stepped over to chat. Chatting about our problems, hurts, pain...and venting and hopefully supporting. One person was afraid to post here. Some have wondered into chat and were desperate, lost and not knowing what to do. I know I was searching for answers, as they, before I found MB. I know since I was so clueless and confused (not that I'm not now)MB has really helped me in understanding. Someone along the line referred me to MB....for that I am greatful. The chat has given me an opportunity to refer others, that didn't know about MB to this site, for help. I felt this was productive and that they will gain more understanding, information and support, as I did.<P><BR>Thanks to all that come to chat. If anyone wants to meet to vent, post a time and we can get together. <BR>

HW,<BR>Here is a link you (and others) should read concerning internet chat. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5028_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5028_qa.html</A> <P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>