my wife has confessed to the affair. she still wants to go thru with the 'd'. she says this is something she needs to do. in some strange way- i am ok with that. we both have no animosity towards another, i have had my faults in this marriage, she has hers. says the affair was her selfish way of feeling special to someone- something she didn't get from me- ouch.<BR>she is in counseling , as are both our son and i. i told her that lots of people get over this stuff, about this forum, my handle, and asked her to join. i stted i beleived in the principles spoken here, gave her a copy of lovebusters, and told her that i loved her and truly wanted us to heal as a unit. she said that she wasn't there right now- she needed to get ok with herself.<BR>in the beginning, i tried to stay away from the angry outburst and judging. i didn't do too well. i told her what i knew andd what scumbag would say to her and i couldn't beleive that any self-respecting woman would fall for such lines as " you make my pants tight" and " i wanna get there first so i can watch you cum". god, it makes me sick. makes me wanna kick his a** just for saying those things to a woman- let alone her. she says it didn't last long, she was running from our problems- both of ours- and being selfish, that she will have toi deal with it for the rest of her life.<BR>my question is- what do i do from this point on- i will have to let go, i do hope and pray for reconcilliation, for us and our son. i have a strange feeling of everytings gonna be alright- .<BR>any suggestions.<BR>i'm gonna go back to bed and check again when i get to work, so dont be offwended if i dont reply to your post quickly.<BR>thanks guys- this place and your replies have really been a life-preserver in such an insane time.
