Hi to everyone today how is everyone? I suppose we are all feeling very sad today. Didn't seem to make my H feel any different even after seeing all the bodies and all the people who are looking for their loved ones. my heart goes out to each and every one of them. You would think that this would knock some sense into these WS, maybe it will for some not so sure about mine. He has put moving out on hold right now because he is working 12hr. shifts 7 days a week until further notice but I guess its okay because I will never see him. I'm not sure what to feel, I feel guilt for feeling sorry for myself, when I should be mourning for all the people we lost, but yet I am so very sad for myself, I wish i could hug and kiss my H and tell him how much I love him,but I cannot at this point I would probably make a fool of myself especially if he is still seeing OW. I started reading surving an affair, I ordered from this site and it as been very helpful to me, H is not interested in reading it I practicly begged him to just look through it and see how good it looks, no he said. anyway hope everyone is okay and feeling good. Love Sally

Hi Sally,<P>Ok, let's find a bit of positive stuff in your post, ok? <P>1. H is working 12 hours shifts 7 days a week. Hm... that <BR> means: <BR> a. 12 hours working<BR> b. 2 hours communiting?<BR> c. 5 hours min sleeping?<BR> d. 1 hour shower/using bathroom etc<BR> e. 2 hours eating<BR> f. 2 hours with children/taking care of business<BR>Subtotal: 24 hours<BR> g. ow time? 0.0<BR>Grand total: 24 hours<BR>Hours in a day: 24 hours<BR>Balance to spend with OW? 0.0<P><BR>Well, this is wishful thinking but could be real. Feel a bit better now? Ok, your personal time with him is not itemized but who knows you might be able to squeeze in during some of those @ home time....... <P>Be creative Sally, this is your chance or even be patient. H may turn around. This is hard stuff you all are facing out there. You never know what people are saying to him out there. Just remember your help can come from some unusual sources...... Postive thinking ok?<P>L. <BR>

Sad Sally,<P>I'm sorry to hear about your H not wanting to try. It's a sad day for me and my H as well. I don't know if you have followed our stories at all, but I just confessed to having 3 other A's. How sad we are to have deal with my past crap and to morn for all the families. I will pray for you both. Sherry

Sad Sally,<P>I'm very sorry for your situation. Keep reading Surviving an Affair and keep praying. This week I also have felt both guilty and angry at the same time. I've felt guilty about feeling sorry for myself and my own problems but I've also felt angry at my WS because I'm having to deal with those emotions about the tragedies in NewYork and Washington by myself. These are the kind of times when partners are supposed to be there to support each other.<P>I too am hoping that my WS will get a jolt of reality from the events of this week and realize that the most important thing in this world is the loving relationship that you share with your spouse and your family. Keep trying and keep praying Sally.