I've decided to separate from my W. I can not longer take the lying and cheating. Recently, things have gotten bad at home, lots of fighting and verbal abuse. I tried to implement a plan A, but I couldn't hold it together with my W zipping off every other weekend to see him. I'm starting to wonder if my life would be better without her. How can this marriage exists after all of the hurt inflicted? How can I ever trust her again? I would like some advice from those who've been there. What should I expect after separation? <p>Thanks

burns,<p> I am not really versed in your story, but wanted to let you know that I understand your pain . I really don't have any advise for you. If I were you I would try and Plan A alittle longer. How long has this been going on?<p>Indy

Hey burns1471 - <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>What should I expect after separation?<hr></blockquote><p>That would be tough to say; I think it's situational..<p>But my experience w separation says..talk to Steve or Jen. Asap.<p>Are you aware of the objectives of plan A? Were you able to "hit" any of them? Plan A lays the foundation..<p>If you feel the situation is intolerable, but haven't given up; talk to Steve or Jen.<p>
Dan<p>[ December 16, 2001: Message edited by: Family Man ]</p>

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by burns1471:
<strong>Recently, things have gotten bad at home, lots of fighting and verbal abuse.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Those has to be resolve before going to plan B. I undestand how you feel, my ww zipped out olmost every night. What help me is I let her go. If she is mine she will return and hope I am still be here. I told her that and I stoped the cycle of LB.
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>I tried to implement a plan A, but I couldn't hold it together with my W zipping off every other weekend to see him. I'm starting to wonder if my life would be better without her.</strong><hr></blockquote>
All of BS wonder one time or another. I still does that from time to time, it is normal. Get busy don't let your mind wonder and also take a cease fire on LB'ed. You could be "talking back" w/o provoking her or LB ... use fogese talk back.
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>How can this marriage exists after all of the hurt inflicted? How can I ever trust her again? I would like some advice from those who've been there. What should I expect after separation?</strong><hr></blockquote>
No experience here, still in plan A. Howeve POJA & 4 gifts of love are needed to put boundry and build trust. By then she has to try ... you have continue plan A'ng forever.<p>[ December 16, 2001: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>