Exposure will help you a great deal. The crack house is not quite so much fun when everyone you grew up respecting comes to watch in horror.
You're already watching the worst consequences possible. An affairage in the crack house. It doesn't actually help to watch.
As for your children, exposure will help there too. You're right that contact with infidelity is concerning for them, but you are capable of guiding them on the rights of the matter. Don't cover this up for them, let them know it's wrong and let them know the dangers of infidelity can prey even on people they love or respect, like their father.
Children who've been exposed to infidelity with guidance are actually more armoured from infidelity in the future. Like Dr Harley himself. There are people like me, who have no infidelity in my past at all who were simply unprepared and unaware of what it looks like. And there are the many who had affairs normalised for them, who become wayward themselves.
Dr Harley says: "My experience with the positive outcomes of hundreds of families where an affair has been exposed to children has led me to encourage a betrayed spouse not to fear such exposure. In fact, to mislead children, giving other false explanations as to why their parents are not getting along, causes children to be very confused. When they finally discover the truth, it sets an example to children that dishonesty is sometimes acceptable, making them the judge of when that might occur."
Try this article:
Infidelity the lessons children learn:
https://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8112_lesson.htmlAlso check out the step by step guide written by Melody Lane:
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2566583#Post2566583