Did you change your name to Viscountiss? Here is one of your threads. Husband wants to leave

Is your H familiar with MB?

Have you read What to do with an Angry Husband?

Last year, you also posted here:
https://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php/topics/2901839/re-angry-outbursts-plan-b.html

Your old account:
https://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php/users/60711.html

Back then, you were not married. Are you married now?

Threads merged. Please stick to one thread.

Sorry! I couldn�t remember my username or which email I used!

We are married, have been for 5 years.

I closed the business and finally found a job, that had been a huge issue with plan b. I also developed Some serious health issues and dealing with that kept me out of state at specialists most of spring and summer.

I have read the what to do with an angry husband and the plan b thread. My initial plan had been to file for divorce, go no contact, and just be done. I�ve been considering today going in to plan b with the �requirement� of us reconciling being the following-

- anger management program
- treating his depression and anxiety
- being involved in the men�s accountability group in our church for porn and anger issues (I�m willing to not be involved in anything other than the youth program as long as plan b is ongoing)
- financial counseling
- finishing some home improvement projects

In six months I�d like to set up separate sessions with a marriage builders counselor and see if they think we are ready to start dating. If he hasn�t done anything on the list I�ll file at that point. If he�s working on things I�ll wait another 3 months in plan b and do the same thing. I�m moving in with my parents and I�m close enough to date him. I plan to date for at least three months prior to me moving back in.

I�m not comfortable with him being alone with our son in the house at this point. I�m proposing that he come to my parents set times when I�m out of the house.

I�m also considering using my dad as an IM.

Am I being realistic?

I�m also considering counseling with a counselor at the domestic violence center I�m using for the verbal and emotional abuse. That�s got to be dealt with as well.

Update... I ended up getting a restraining order last Monday after a lot more swearing, threats of suicide on my husband's part, threats of violence. It went from AOs to full-on emotional and verbal abuse. I have retained an attorney and have not sent a plan b letter.

My husband has (of course) retained a big firm out of the next big city, they're now harassing me since he can't. I wish I had listened way back when some of you guys told me to walk away. I hate the way my marriage is ending, but I don't see any route this is going other than divorce.

Who is paying for your husband‘s law firm?

No idea, I assume his sister. He's had his own checking and savings for a while that he's been hoarding money in to.

Between December and now I did a brief plan B, we did counseling, got back together, and things were worse. We separated, I went dark, but he never received the plan B letter.

At this point, I don't know if I should send one or not. I'm leaning towards not.