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#3017091 10/23/23 09:06 AM
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My husband and I have been married for 3 years. I’m a Christian, and my husband says he is too, but I’ve been really struggling with a noticeable increase in my husbands interest in occult/satanic entertainment. His favorite holiday was always Halloween which I didn’t think much of because he didn’t make a big deal while we were dating about it. But I’ve always been vocal about my belief in the demonic. I always thought he agreed because he never said anything contrary when I would speak about it. But I was telling him this morning how convicted I feel that we should no longer watch horror movies involving satanic/demonic plots and how Halloween makes me uneasy. He laughed a few times throughout the conversation at how ridiculous it was and how he’s not giving up Halloween. He also talked about how witchcraft/demonic stuff isn’t real. This felt like a huge blow because it is a huge deal to me (and I’ve been very clear from the beginning that it is). I feel deceived by him because he hid his true beliefs knowing how strongly I felt about it. It hurt even more as he also hid a porn addiction from me when we were married which was another thing I was very vocal about before we even started dating. It just feels like I was manipulated into marriage while he laid low on my known big “deal breakers”. These are all items I would’ve had second thoughts about marrying someone over. How do we deal with such a difference of beliefs?

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Is he on board with MB principles? If so, he's violating the PoJA and those are some disrespectful judgements to laugh about your convictions. If he isn't, is he aware that he is making love bank withdrawals?

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You should have a conversation on how to handle that in the future when kids come along. I used to have my kids dress up as something neutral. There has been some discussion lately if Halloween really had a demonic background, but he should respect your opinion regardless. But you should find a solution both are enthusiastic about. If he only says yes to keep the peace, you will have problems later down the road. Many christians would agree with you that such movies are demonic, but many others see them as you would fairy tales. Interesting to look at, but nothing to do with your faith. I used to lean to the former side, but am now somewhat more in the middle. I don't watch them, but my husband and older (past puberty) children do. Although I am not thrilled about it and would rather they read their bibles, it is not enough of a priority for me to make a fuss about. My husband was an atheist when we met, but now goes to church with me.

The two of you should look for a mutually agreeable solution. That could be, that he only watches such a movie when he goes to the cinema with friends, or you go on vacation around halloween. Who knows. It is your marriage. You cannot and should not force him to see things the same as you or question his belief system, as these are also disrespectful judgements, and he should not laugh about your concerns. Even if you thought in the past that he thought the same, you should now be honest with each other and brainstorm long enough over the course of the next few weeks to come to an enthusiastic agreement. Don't discuss this shortly before Halloween.


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