I hve recently discovered that my wife has had four affairs during the 25 years of our marriage. While my heart is broken deeply, I am hopeful in the fact that we are both Christians and she has broken off the last affair and come clean with me and our Pastors about all of this.<BR> Where I am (and she)need prayer is that my wife has told me for many years (unfortunately, usually during sexual times together) that she doesn't love me as a husband or feel any emotional feelings or passion for me. <BR> I have made sure that I have taken complete inventory of myself and confessed, apologized and made right any and all areas of our relationship where I thought I may have not met her emotional needs.<BR> She tells me that this is not the problems, that she feels I have done everything right to be a good husband to her. She also states that she is really torn up that she doesn't have these feelings and doesn't know why she can't get victory in this area.<BR> I do have to add that my wife's family history is that she was raised in a somewhat strict Pastor's daughter relationship and that physical touch and affection, words of love and emotion was not the normal part of their daily life. She has a very hard time wanting to touch, say I love you, hug, kiss, show signs of love and affection. It's not that she doesn't want to, she just feels it is not in her heart and she doesn't know how to change.<BR> I have tried for the last 24 years to talk, comfort, help, etc since the first affair without any success. Though I forgave her (there was no real attempt at confession and discussing restoration of our relationship, just a 'I asked God to forgive me-let's move on" attitude)and tried to show her love and forgiveness, she just retreated into a secret life which encluded leaving me faithful but having very little of my emotional and physical needs met and then complicated by additional affairs on her part, two of which were total shocks to me when disclosed.<BR> Please pray for a breakthrough with my wife. Not just for my sake, I have endure the pain of infidelity and rejection fairly well due to the sheer grace of God. I am hurting more for her because she is so unhappy with herself and her lack of feeling love for me as well as carrying the guilt and shame of her actions, even though myself, our two children and pastors have clearly demonstrated love, forgiveness and acceptance.
