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<small>[ March 04, 2004, 07:21 PM: Message edited by: new_beginning ]</small>

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Dzzz and Sheryl,

First I want you to know that I love you two dearly. I would never hurt or condemn you deliberately. I'm trying to help you claim your victory!!! You are not failing miserably, you are a child of God! God has never let anyone who has sought Him fail miserabely! What I'm trying to say is that we have to learn to say "No, satan, I have confessed that sin to God. I have repented and made restitution, or asked for forgiveness, reconciled, whatever, and you have no right to throw me into guilt, shame, etc. again. I command you to go away in the name of Jesus!". And I understand "confessing one to another" is a command of God. But again "another" doesn't need to be everybody! That's all! I just want to see you and Sheryl walk in victory. The victory that was bought with a price!!! Jesus DIED for us. But does He ask us to keep asking for His forgiveness? NO!!! But we have asked HIS forgiveness, and instead of guilt and shame, we have His blessing!!! Your brother [me]loves you both with ALL his heart! You need to believe that too!

Oh Lord God, My heart aches with tears over my two precious sisters. Father, I don't have a clue what to ask You for, but if You can hear my tears, if You will see the despair that fills my heart. Father, please deliver them from the bondage that torments them. Father, You know every need, emotional, spiritual, financial, and physical. Please make a way where there is no way for them Father. I ask that you would bring restoration, reconciliation, and peace back to their lives. God, please here the seriousness of this plea. You know just what to do Father! I have put all my trust and faith in You. Father, come quickly and end this internal punishment that they go thru each day. I sing every praise to You that I can think of Father. I come on bended knee, asking that Your attention to their situaton be swift. What do You ask of us Father, that You would show Your favor to us? Father God, be with the girls today. Shower Your love down upon them. Set them free once and for all. In Jesus name. Amen

God Heal My Beloved Sisters!
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Single? When you were a little boy .. do you remember that feeling of a teacher towering over you "teaching" you algebra? You REALLY wanted to hear her/him... really you did....

Then remember that really special teacher? The one that got down on one knee beside your desk and put his/her arm around you and smiled and took your pencil and gently and patiently did the questions with you?

Which teacher got the most results?

Question? Have you honestly read each and every post I have written on this subject today? Including the Poem? If so? Why are you feeling the need to preach at me? I GET IT!! LOL

In one post I asked for examples from other's lives on HOW ..not WHAT? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

(thanks for the prayer btw.. I DID appreciate that)


<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Dzzz,

I may be old, but I'm slow.

May I venture to say that it isn't forgiveness you are looking for. I know you know you are forgiven.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">NOW do you love me????</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">With every fiber of my being, I want you to know that I accept you. Knowing all the things I know about you. The things you struggle with; memories that cause you pain, your deeds that have left scars. We all have them, the things we think make us unloveable.

We are human. To accept each other in our humanity is what God asks us to do. You be as human as you need to be. God's grace abounds here.

Abundant blessings to you.

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S & C your post made me cry. (a good cry)

Thank you.

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Thank you for the prayer, singleguy. I also appreciate it.

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Sheryl,

I would be hurt if you were to leave. Same with Dzzz. But I do understand the pulsation of emotions. I hope you understand that as a guy, I am a "fixer". Also as a guy, maybe sometimes I don't hear what you are really "saying". Hopefully you can help me with that. I AM trying to understand, and protect both of you at the same time! I haven't been where you have been, but I've been down in the gutter. So rather than "preaching" tonite, I just want to be here for the two of you. Just know that my prayers are with you, and I care!

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Sheryl and Dzzz,

{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}} to both of you! You are very much loved and appreciated for the contributions you have given to this group of warriors! The board would never be the same without either of you! I have been lurking around this thread, not really trying to intercede since this was a conversation between you two; however, I believe I need to tell you how appreciated you both are. We accept you for the people you are and any kinds of choices you have made in your life. We are all learning from each other and hopefully, you will continue to bless us with your presence.

I think you both are very strong women - Diamonzzz, I admire your endurance and I believe you have such wisdom that contributes a great deal to this board. NB, I admire your excitement to learn more, to grow spiritually and if you need to take baby steps to get to where you need to be, then by all means, do it! We are here to help you accomplish that!

I know you both have helped me a great deal and I wanted to thank you for everything you have contributed. I pray God's blessings over both of you today and forever! We love you!

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Diamonzzz,

I know how you're feeling. I originated this thread to let you know you were being thought of, and cared for... those things remain the same. I hope we can continue to "connect"...

singleguy,

I've had a very bad day. I've peppered the thread with the reasons. I am not good at hiding my feelings, never have been.

I need you to know that I didn't mean to manipulate you (or anyone else) into begging me to stay. I've written far too many "goodbye" message in my time here. Now THAT'S embarrassing! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

You are a nice man, singleguy, and funny too. You've made me laugh 'till I cried (and my H too, did you read the pontification thread? I wrote about it!). I have no bad feelings toward you -- but I did get hurt. That's my problem, not yours, okay?

StandingTogether,

What a sweet, touching post! Thank you! I will say to you what I said to singleguy... I am sorry if it seemed that I was fishing for 'Don't go's'... I wasn't. Oh, maybe subconsciencely (sp?) I was. I apprecaite your words so much.

steadfast and Everyone,

I wanted to make VERY clear that it was never my intention to make anyone feel unwelcome in this, or any other thread. EVERYONE IS ALWAYS WELCOME.

Just wanted you to know that.

Take care, and I'm thinking about what everyone's said tonight.

Edit: I've deleted most of the posts, first to remove the quotes from Diamonzzz in respect of her wishes (since she had deleted her posts), and then realized that maybe it's time that I took better care of myself - emotionally, especially. To that end, I deleted as well.

Again, I thank everyone who contributed to this thread. It HAS made me think, and will continue to do so... I suspect for a long time to come.

God Bless us All!

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