Glad to know the weekend "worked" for you.
How different things would have been if you hadn't told your husband about your affair and he had to find out himseld.
Honesty is a heck of a thing. Tell me up front and I can and will sympathize with you and your predicament since we can all fall into traps. However, keep it from me until I find it out myself and you're in trouble. I always prefer the former.
Perhaps that is one reason why you had such a romantic getaway. Try to have one such every quarter, at least, and YOU do the planning. It will show you're repentant and have a genuine desire to make amends.
Was sex a part of that "romantic weekend"?... If so, to what degree?
After I found out about my wife's Emotional Affair, I ran the gamut of emotions — from disgust to anger and every thing in between. I had absolutely NO desire for her for nine weeks. In fact, we barely said anything to weach other, except for my ranting and raving constantly about her 'betrayal'.
While she would get maybe only a 3 out of 10 when it comes to being enthusiastic about sex and being versatile and exciting, we do fun things while on vacation and I have found that a vacation without sex that is different is no vacation at all.
Someone had posted in the EN forum around March 20 (?) a post titled, "Have You Really Travelled" (For Fun), in which people started telling of the places where they've had sex while on vacation.
I know that some of this might fooend your relligious sensibilities, but it is worth a read. It didn't get very far though, partly bacause it might not have been attractively titled.
I think one of the ways to bring him back to you quickly (especially if Sexual Fulfilment is high on his list of ENs) is to make the sex interesting and enthusiastic. Do some of the things that you don't (or, won't do at home for reasons of time, privacy, etc.
Be different... Show him the 'other' YOU, and show him a lot of it. You might be surprised to see how quickly he might forget your indiscretions and look forward to those getaways.
However, the weekend should not end when you walk back through your front door, but should continue as though you are still out there.
Remember .. you were doing "sexual" things with someone else and he might be wondering what the OM was getting that he wasn't. Since you never went all the way with OM, show your H what you have in your arsenal which you realized was wrong to give to the OM. I guess that was why you stopped short.
Anyway, you were one who gave me hope and encouragement, so I hope this encourages you and that I did not offend. I did not mean to and, in any case, why hide the fact that we are all sexuaal beings and that the quality of a marriage will be enhanced a great deal if the sex is great.
Go for it, I say .. bothe the romantic vacations and the romantic sex as part of the getaways.