Friends, I need you all to pray in agreement with me over the following.....<P>God is great! I have prayed for H to soften his heart to me, and he has ...but OW was confirmed by SIL this weekend...they have been freinds since childhood. I have prayed for God to convict the OW's heart and fill her with remorse so she will walk away, and she DID!!!!! SIL talked to her yesterday. H was so depressed after his night away from home. I've never seen him so low. SIL said OW wants nothing to do with him anymore...she feels horrible, and it has cost her too much. H was super cuddly in bed last night..clingy in fact. Today, more depressed than yesterday. SIL talked to OW again, who asked her to tell H not to try to contact her at all, to leave her alne...she is leaving in 3 days to go to a different place where he can't find her. Right now she is in NY with his brother...another childhood friend. So as I was walking around my house praising God for this miracle, H called to say he needs to talk to me. He said he is scared to talk to me. I know after he found out his sister had called the house, he asked me many times what she said to me. I lied and said only that she said she is sorry we are having problems while I am pregnant. I am praying now that tonight H will confess before I find out from someone else, and ask for reconciliation........but I fear he will walk out to try to find a way back to her. I am so scared. <P>Please pray in agreement with me that the Lord bless the OW and give her the strenghth to stay out of our lives..I know it won't be easy for her. And pray with me that my H be restored to me and that the Lord will use me as a tool to demonstrate to H the healing power of Jesus...to let him see through God working in me unconditional love and forgiveness.<P>Bless you al for standing strong with me.<BR>Kim<BR>

praying for you, H & OW now...<P>Kathi

Just had talk with H...OW was not a big romance, though he cares about her..said he hadn't been happy in marriage and now OW is pregnant. He feels responsible for both babies, though he says mine comes first...he wants OW to move to town so he can be daddy to both babies...and for now, says he feels nothing romantic for me and yet doesn't want me to lose home etc.so he is going torent guest room for same amount he puts in household account. SIL said OW was leaving NY and wanted nothing to do with H, but H knows from her mom where she is planning to go, unless something changes. I don't know how to handle this...I pray still for restoration, because I think if he truly felt nothing he would sell and move. I think there is a lot of guilt. I pray that the OW will find support of a different kind and still leave H behind. I know that seems ugly, but it is the only way H and I stand any chance of recovery. Please continue to pray for me...I am numb now.<BR>Kim

Oh Kim...that is indeed mixed news.<P>On one hand, it's great that prayers were answered and H is wanting to be home. On another hand, this adds a whole new angle on things. <P>I haven't seen your whole story..why do YOU have to do all the love bank filling? Isn't HE the one that had the affair? I would think he would be grovelling. Then again, as I said, i don't konw your whole situation. Anyway...my feelings would be that he does need to be a father to the child, if he was aid in creating the life. HOWEVER...this should not be his primary concern. YOU should.<P>In the middle of an affair it's so confusing and painful (trust me I know) and you don't know what you're feelign from moment to moment. I went through horrible withdrawal and now, praise Jesus, I don't even konw what I saw in the OM. If your H is still in contact, he's not even hit withdrawal yet. At least, not full force.<P>There are some very difficult roads ahead for your family. Your H needs to make sure you are the main priority for him. As callous as this seems, the other pregnancy can't be too far along, so he has some time before he needs to really give it any major focus. <P>A period of prayer and fasting (if possible) is a great idea, and I will pray for you when I can ( tonight and anytime I think of it). God wants to save your marriage. He hates divorce, we all know that. And He loves us, and doesn't want us to suffer.<P>Praise be to God we have a place to go for this kind of pain and confusion. Encourage H to do the same, if he is able. That was the only thing that helped me see clearly.<P>My prayers for you<P><P>------------------<BR>"Love...bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things...LOVE NEVER FAILS..."-ICorinthians13:7,8

I'm sure gonna pray for you !!!<BR>The Lord sure is answering your prayers... Keep up the good work........s

Ohhhh, I feel so much for you... I was right where you are a 2 years ago...... now both OW and I have toddlers 3 months apart in age....... I will continue lifting you up in prayer, for I truely can stand in agreement understanding and agreeing in a mighty way for the RIGHT outcome according to Gods perfect plan..... Hang in there, and post as often as you can, it really helps to pour it all out!!!!!! <P>God be with you, He loves you so much and has your best interest in mind....Cling to Him and know that HE IS IN CONTROL, then just rest in your prayers and wait in peace for His miraculous blessings!!!!!! <BR> I know this all sounds too good to be attainable, but as in all things with the Lord, we must put it to practice.... remind yourself constantly of Gods attributes and then believe them...<P>My heart goes out to you....<P>------------------<BR>Jesus is the only answer!<BR>His blessings, Cozy

I know the emotions run like a roller coaster, but thank the Lord for the numbness. Sometimes the numbness can help you take a breath and pray before you react.<P>And, I am reminded of Abraham and Sarah, God sent OW and child away to the wilderness. I pray the Lord does this for your sake, In Jesus Name. And I pray that the Lord will bless your marriage, and that He would give you a love for your husband that defies all logic, and that the Lord would put a wall of confusion between your husband and OW. In Jesus Name.<P>

Kim, what a blow. I am sorry for all your hurt. Used2bCozy will be able to offer you lots of encouragement and support as she is kind of in the same situation that you are. <P>First of all, does your H know for sure its his? I would pray that the Lord reveal the truth. "For nothing is secret that will not be revealed, nor anything hidden that will not be known and come to light." Luke 8:17. And pray that the Lord remove the OW completely and permanently from your husband's life. You are his covenant wife, and his responsibility and promise is with you. <P>Dear Heavenly Father, I come before you in thanksgiving for our dear sister Kim. Thank You Father for her faith in You and her unconditional love for her husband. Lord, we thank YOu also for healing her heart, and protecting her from any more pain. Thank You Lord for the gift of her child. We are in awe of your never ending love for us. Father I pray that You will continue to work on Kim's husband's heart and soul, bringing him to his knees, broken, before You. Let him see his sins clearly and repent of them. I pray that You will do for Kim and her husband what You did for Abraham and Sarah and send the OW & OC far away into the wilderness. I pray that a wedge of discord is placed between Kim's H and the OW, and that the OW's heart is greatly troubled by her sin. I pray Lord, that Kim's husband has no peace and no rest until he repents before You. Show him Lord the path he is to take, turn his heart in Your direction. Thank You Father for healing this marriage. You are almighty, our King, our Savior, we love you so much. Thank You Lord for all You have done for us. We are not worthy of Your love, but You give it freely to us anyway. We are so grateful. IJN AMEN