Well, I dreaded it happening, but the youngest now knows that dad has a girlfriend and that she has been around for 6 years. I found out from the friend that lives with me that while my daughter was in h's office yesterday that she saw a birthday card for him. In it is said "Have fun in --- with ow's name!! Well, my daughter is a smart cookie and she looked on his list and realized there was no one in the company by that name. She didn't want me to know because she was afraid it would upset me during this time when I am writing finals...<P>So I just could not let her mind play with this for long. I've known it was something that she needed to know. Secrets in a family are not good even when they are separated. So, I told my h today how she found out and that I was going to tell her the truth.<P>My youngest cried and laid in my arms for a long time and we talked. She is mad at her Dad and doesn't want to see him for a couple of days. I assured him that just give her a day or so.<P>I feel a bit wiped out. I hurt because it seems like he is pretty well set on this women. She is filling his needs... I hurt for my children. I know the ow is spending time with the oldest one (went up to her school on Sat and took her shopping). This is the hardest one for me to accept. That this woman has anything to do with my children, but I know I have no control over this and that it will be...<P>I know the Lord is in this even though at this point I don't see it. I feel that everyone thinks I am nuts for standing for him and my belief that God can do anything. But I am letting it gi at this point. I said a few things I needed to say to him today and then I felt sad but knew it was time. I graduate in 5 weeks and then I get on with my life. That does not mean I am giving up my stand or on God, only that it is time to go about life and if God returns him then so be it, if not He will provide!<P>So I ask that you would all lift up my daughters in prayer for their hearts. I pray that they will draw closer to God through this not move away. I pray for reconcilliation between daughters and dad. I still pray for h's return to a relationship with God.<P>You have all been so supportive, thanks from the bottom of my heart!<P>Lord, I lift up al the women tonight and ask that you touch each of their hearts according to their most heartfelt needs. Lord, hear their prayers and draw them closer to You. I pray that they would thirst for more of You each day and imagine dancing in Your arms each might. Lord sustain us and give us all steadfast hearts in Jesus.<P>Lord bring our wayward spouses home. Heal their deep wounds, addictions, lusts for pleasures on earth, estrangements from spouses, children and families. Lord You have the power to heal us all. Lord, let us take hold of that promise and accept that you are healing us this minute. Lord give us rest. Let us follow Mary's model and come and sit at Your feet and listen and rest. Lord let us put our Martha parts away.<P>Jesus thank you. We give You all honor praise and glory for the richness of Your love that you show us. Jesus thank You.<P>In Jesus name, Amen.

dearest hw, yes I will be praying for you and your daughters. You popped in my mind this afternoon, so I said a quick prayer then for the Lord to give you peace. <P>hw I am amazed at your spiritual growth through all you have been through. It is an emotional upheaval for a child to find out about what the absent parent has been up to. I also felt like I needed to keep my son from knowing what happened to protect him even though my therapist advised me to tell him. I just couldn't. I have never told my daughter about her father's adultery either. <P>Maybe this will be a wake up call for your h, to see the havoc he has wreaked in your daughter's life. Her reaction to him my have far more impact that you imagine. Bless your heart hw, you must feel like Job. Remember though that the Lord gave back to Job far more than was taken from him. Keep clinging to the hem of his garment. He is right there with you hw, and your daughters.<P>Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for hw and her daughters, please wrap your arms around them and bring them comfort. Lord, lift them up and fill them with joy, the joy of the Lord. Lord, help hw be a calming presence for her children, help her to respond with love and kindness. Thank You Lord for your great love for us, for taking care of our every need. Lord, I believe in Your Word, and know that You are true to your promises and thank You that hw's every need will be taken care of. Love her Lord, let her feel Your deep love for her tonight. Draw hw and her daughters even closer to you. In Jesus' name I pray, AMEN.

hw,<BR>It's awful that children have such things in their lives. I was dumbfounded when my then 14 year old told me she knew about her dad's affair, but that it was his broken promises that he would never leave home again that lost her respect for him. With him being home now 11 months, that relationship is re-building, but it has taken a lot of work on his part.<P>Dear God,<BR>I life hw & her children up to you. You have a plan for their lives, a good plan. I pray that they keep their eyes on you and that you comfort, teach & counsel them with Your Holy Spirit as they confront the result of sin in their lives. In Jesus' name, amen.

aw and lor,<P>Thanks so much for the prayers! She is still sad today, but getting by. I called h to tell him her therpist said she needs to be in control of the situation but that also he should reach out to her. He was thinking about going to pick her up tonight anyways and I said don't but call her and see if she is ready. It might be better to hear it from her anyway. So that is what he said he was going to do.<P>It is lonely somedays when you to stand alone even among your family, but God is showing me how as He has with each of us. I know that I need just to look at him and let the whole thing go.<P>aw I hope this will wake him up, but it just might make things complete on their side, because now she will know him. BUT!! I know that God is in this and that things are not always as they seem!<P>Thanks guys for the prayers and the support, this is my support, and i praise God for each of you and pray that you know He is working in your situations.<P>So, I am praising Him through it all, though there are tears too. It is hard to see your children hurt! Heck it is hard for me to see h hurt even though this is of his own making.<P>Take care all, have a great day in the Lord!

Dear God,<P>Please lift up AW and her children. They are facing a difficult time with the knowledge of the affair grows. As children finding out that their parents are human and sin is such a hard lesson. <P>Please give them peace and knowledge of your love. Also please support AW in her time of need. Give her strength for her classes and understanding your will in this new revalation.<P>-- AW just to let you know I was about 20 when I found out my dad cheated on my Mom. It was devistating. I never really knew my dad because he decided to take the easy way and leave my Mom. He even did in a cheap fashion took her to the hospital to give birth to me and just left. I decided not to have a relationship with him when he started to reach out to me. Granted I was in High School. I did not know about the affairs but I thought it was not very loving leaving us and my Mom alone to strugle. He did not even bother to pay child support. Now your H is by no means ready to abandon his children but your daughters will find thier own path with thier father in due time. <P>((((((AW)))))))

hw,<P>Just dropped in for a peek, now I know it was because you needed prayer. Children are effected by this junk no matter what the age. My grown children are still dealing with the effects. God is aware and alert hw, He knows what He is doing even if things look out of control to us. God has given your daughter a spirit-filled woman to hold her and help her through this! You are able with the Lord's strength to handle this in such a way that your daughter will see God's mercy and grace. You are in my prayers.<P>Blessings, Taj<P>------------------<BR>"Perfect love casts out fear" I John 4:18

Taj and Pahakissa,<P>Thanks so much for the prayers and kind words.<P>I have been under attack as well. What a week. I got so low this morning for about 30 minutes when the Lord finally broke through and I realized it was an attack. <P>So many impending changes I think is part of it, as well as this with my daughter. She did talk to her dad tonight, though she vowed not too. She did refuse to speak about the ow with him but asked in the end if she was still here. He said no, but I know she was here yesterday, so I pray he is telling the truth. It doesn't matter if she is here or not, but I want no more lying! Enough is enough!<P>Thanks everyone. I need to start following my own advice in diligence and that is to stay in praise of the Lord. He is the one who defeats our foes. <P>hw<P>

Praying Women, thanks to you.<P>I woke up feeling so great today, the discouragement gone and the Lord's grace and love present. Things really haven't changed ,but I feel your prayers working thanks.<P>The ow left some time this week I believe. So if you wouldn't mind praying that my h would be released from her snares. I know that GOd is working and His Will, will prevail.<P>I had such a low Thursday morning. I was really under attack. At one point the Lord, broke through and I could see it for what it was. It had to be an attack. It was really fierce. But thank goodness for Jesus who came to break through with His truth and love. I realized that satan was trying to convince me, that i had lost, that she had won. That my h was inthrawled with her and the girls wuld like her and she would be a better mom, and I would go no where. Hello, hw don't listen to garbage!! So, I geban praising the Lord, and believing that of course He was still in this and had not deserted me. My eyes were opened.<P>You know thatmay have been the morning she left town and I wonder if that timing has anythig to do with it.<P>Well, I thank you again friends and I really appreciate your prayers for my family and the peace and love, mercy and grace we have from our Father, and Son, Jesus.<P>Have a great weekend and I too am praying for you all.<P>hw

hw, praise the Lord!!! Thank You Lord for giving hw back Your peace and joy. Dear sister hw, you are so right. The enemy wants us to get discouraged, he plants those ugly thoughts in our head so we will do what he wants us to do, GIVE UP PRAYING FOR OUR HUSBANDS AND MARRIAGES! Keep up the good fight hw! Hang in there, I'm putting on my armor and praying for you and your h!<P>Love ya,<BR>AW<P>

HW, I am so sorry I haven't been here in awhile and missed your specific call for prayer. So glad the Lord strengthened you through this time. I think of you often. My system crashed again and so now I have erased all Netscape so if those of you who have sent me emails in the past would again send me your addresses, I sure would like to get them in my address book....Taj, and Rootbeer, great to hear for you!

Dear hw,<P>I wrote a response to your post the other day, but before I was able to send it, I lost the post, and it reminded me of how often that would happen, and how frustrating it was to us.You know- you spend all that time and energy spilling your heart, and poof- it's gone.....Anyway, the spirit was willing to try again, but the flesh was weak, so I went to bed.<P>I just wanted to tell you that I never stop praying for you, and have you up on my praying tree that Erin Thiele suggests making in her workbook.<P>When you wrote another time of J saying the D word, it inspired me to pray even harder for God to take the ow out of his life.To convict J of His Mighty presence and to repent,turn to his Lord, and then to his loving wife and children. <P><BR>My husband filed for D on Mar.29th.<BR>Thank God that I didn't have further pain and embarrassment by getting served the papers at either of my jobs, so I was "relieved"(what a relative term- wouldn't we be relieved for this whole storm to have passed...)when I found them in the mailbox instead.<BR>(The law here says that I don't have to sign them for it to go through, which of course, I won't.)<P>hw,don't ever give up- trust in Jesus.<BR>KNOW that this is all happening for God's Glory, and He WILL use and turn this for your good.<P>There is so much encouragment God has made available with the gifts of marriage ministries that our sisters of the past did not have. Utilize them.<P>The change in your life and the restoration of your marriage will be your greatest testimony!<P>ALMIGHTY Father,<BR>We Praise You and thank You for placing this storm in our paths.We thank You that You are here with us and that You love us so much to allow this "wake up call" to happen.Father in heaven,we depend on You alone, and we pray for You to continue to change us,to change our hearts.<BR>Thank You that You are saving our husbands!<BR>Lord, we know that You have everything in place for the restoration of our marriages,that we need only to be obedient and follow Your ways.<BR>We know that this is Your perfect plan, Your perfect timing.<BR>Lord, thank You for blessing us, so we can be a blessing to others.Thank You for teaching us patience and how to really love by forgiving.<BR>Thank You for Your Son, Jesus Christ,<BR>AMEN.<P>hw,don't let the devil steal your faith.<P>Joyfully in the Lord,<BR>Joynicole<p>[This message has been edited by Joynicole (edited April 09, 2001).]

hw, how are you doing? Every day this week for me has been torture. Seems like the enemy has lots of recruits and they're all working overtime. I sincerely hope that your week is better and that it's your turn for a miracle. <BR>