This is a short message. I have learned alot, from a rather depressing experience (to put it mildly) but have you thought, I mean really thought (betrayed people) about what it kinda means?<P>It means that some of us know what 'unconditional love' means. And its coming from us. Not everyone could or even would be possible to give this to a betrayer. That means that we are pretty special. Forgive me if it looks like i am yanking my own chain here. But really, if you can smile right now, in what ever stage you are in... smile about that.<P>We are special. And sometime or another someone will appreciate it.<P>------------>YOU ARE SPECIAL<-----------<P>p.s. <BR>some say that unconditional love is a myth but at least i know that is untrue<P>J

<BR>I told my H that I really truely loved him so I'm setting him free.<P>That was the hardest thing I have ever done,<BR>but I feel in the long run it will be worth it no matter the out come.<P>At least I keep trying to tell myself that!!!!! <P>------------------<BR>Peg

You are so right J...we are very special!<P>Stac<P>------------------<BR>Jaded Heart<BR>____________<P> <A HREF="http://journeys.webprovider.com" TARGET=_blank>http://reflect.to/journeys</A> <P> <P>

Yup! <P>Lori

James,<P>I have to disagree, sorry don't mean any negative conotations on your thread.<P>My experience is teaching me that romantic love is conditional. <P>The longer this miserable experience drags on the nore those "in love" feelings wane. Also the less respect I have for my W and her decisions. It's like this. She has made no deposits in my love bank since Sept.30. The pain of allo this is causing such up and downs in my heart that the pain is getting to a point that I needed to change ie. plan-b. Now that I've almost been in plan=b for a month, I'm finding myself getting more and more ok with the idea of not being married to her.<P>I do still love her, however I feel that "in-love" fading and fast. The reason is she still continues on this path of destructive behavior, call it slef-centered fear if you will.<P>All I can say is hang on to those feelings as long as you can, you won't notice the change right away but rest assured it will come. I hope I haven't brought you all down. If you have followed my story you will know my committment to my marriage. This hasn't changed, I'm just starting to fall out of love with W, and I'm getting OK with that.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

j<P>What a great post to wake up to. Not only am I learning about "unconditional love" My children are and my H's family is as well. We are all hoping that my H and their son and brother will too!!!<P><BR>We are truly learning to love ourselves.!!!Thanks and good morning!!!!

Will J,<P>I see what you are saying but! you have made a choice as well as we all did. But the fact that the love is there and could be made again by YOU! is a truth. You could if she would, but you probably still love her. Other than that it's kinda a defence mechanism.<P>I know where you are coming from, but the fact that we would have or could have is worth alot.<P>We are special, and someone will know this, if not our spouse.<BR>Take heart.<P>J