Thank you, for your replies to my prior posts. (http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000312.html)<BR> I took your advice and sent an email to the W which said nothing, only included the link above. The link is to the thread I had started asking for advice and only you so kindly replied. To send the link, I set up an account on yahoo mail so this guaranteed she would not know who it was from.<P>I checked the acount tonight and to my surprise I had an email for her. The email included *tears of thanks* and blessings for sending the link and what a true angel I must be. There was included the promise of if she ever figured out who I was, she would personally "hug you to pieces" for stepping up as I did. Amazingly, she also stated she was saddened that I forced the loss of her H's friendship as she knew what a rock and a truly amazing friend he could be. <P>WOW huh ! Boy do I feel good !! <P>I continue to lurk, if only to reassure myself that I totally have to forego even friendship. Perhaps one day, when they straighten out themselves, we might all be able to be friends....<P>Thank you for your kind replies and for inching me to do that which I have known was the truly proper and powerfully gratifying thing to do - despite the loss of my friend.<P>

I can't tell you how happy I am you did this. And for letting me know the outcome. I think back to when my H affair started (just friends, just talking) and I kick myself every day that I didn't jump at the chance at counseling and reaching out to him. Although I'm not sure it would have worked.<P>As you can see the W is now aware and she can do everything in her power to restore her marriage. I hope it works. And I'm so proud that you instigated this. That you took that step. I'm glad I encouraged you to do so. You are special. God Bless you Katanya. Keep us posted. Take Care. <P>------------------<BR>Lost Soulmate<P>"Character is doing what's right, when no one is looking"