Now boarding the emotional roller coaster..

I need some help and advice to get me through this.

Monday is my wifes first appointment with a pyschiatrist. She has stated over and over that there is very little love left for me and she does not want to be around me. She said the only reason she is is because of our son. She said she cannot hardly look at me knowing what she did and the harm she caused. I have forgiven her and want nothing more than for her to say she loves me and wants it all to work. She said there is only a very small part of her that even wants the marriage to work however.
She is leaving for 2 weeks to go see her sister in about a week and I have agreed that she take our son with her. I am not at all worried about her running away or anything silly like that. I am hoping that with the appointment with the shrink and maybe reconnecting with her family a little bit, she will somehow "snap" out of it. She is so damn confused right now she doesnt know what she wants. She has always been a "runner" as far as if there is a problem she runs-if it causes her pain to be close to me, she stays away. I understand I have to be strong for her and supportive and everything else, its just sometimes I wonder why am I putting myself through this? I know I love her but she has said that she has very little love for me. God I hope that she finds that little seed of love in her heart she still has for me and grows it into something bigger as I am definatly hurting here and need you guys' support. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Well you won't believe it now, but your marriage can be better than ever if you stick to this site. Most women who go into affairs do so to meet their emotional needs. Try to figure out what hers are and meet them. Check out the EN questionnaire here.

I printed off copies last week- the thing is, right now she doesnt want to fill stuff like that out. I cannot meet her needs when she won't let me even get close to her. I keep telling her we can make it work is she tries but right now she doesnt know if she even wants to try and that is the hard part, convincing her it is worth fighting for.

Have you read the 180's?

Have you read “Surviving An Affair” by Dr Willard Harley?

Read the links below.

Listen Up! These folks know thier stuff. YOU can do it. Your son needs you to do it. The medicine is here. I'm hearing you're not a regular 'Opra' watchin' fuzzy kind of guy. Get and read Divorce Busting by Michele Weiler-Davis. It is not a big book, the chapters all have a specific focus. It's Action Orriented (i.e. we men can understand the point and get on with it. It may be difficult to do (180, etc). Get some support for yourself outside the home.
I'm a Christian and pray lots, but get support for yourself. Her is a good place, but some trusted local support is ideal. Take good car of yourself, eat, sleep, etc.... See Dr. on the sleep thing if you need to.
You've taken a good step, keep at it!