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Thanks for all of your replies about the dress, as you could probably notice I was not in the best frame of mind when I was writing that post. Anyway, last night my H and I had a very big heart-to-heart about what we were REALLY like pre-A. He said he was scared that we would go back to that. He felt the last couple days have been bad. I told him that he should tell me these things as he is feeling them as that is one of the issues we are trying to work on. For two people who thought they talked, and talked, we didn't really, and we never really listened either. It is sad to think of how far we had strayed emotionally. Today has been great, except for a minor meltdown about some things he had kept from her. They were books, notes about the Japanese language, things totally not related to the affair, but yet are. Does that make sense? I don't want him to keep ANYTHING she gave him. If I could totally erase her out of his mind, I would. He apologized for wanting to keep them and told me that he should have thought more about me than himself. It was nice to hear is apology, but I also felt bad for giving him such a hard time. Am I wrong here? I am wrong often, so anything you can offer is great! 2, I am so sorry that you had to have that bad time. 3 days after the d-day was my daughters b-day, and I felt the same way. Then when Christmas came the next week, oh man, talk about a hard day. I am glad the feeling passed and that you feel better now. Keep thinking of the positives! Holiday, I also agree about the OW. They are not worth our thoughts what-so-ever. I am starting to try and not dwell on her. I am trying to "dwell" on the recovery. It doesn't always work, but I am hoping! DogMom, Way to GO! What great news. How does your H feel about it? Is he as happy as you? I sure hope so. Rocked, hey guy! Hope your Sunday is stress free! Well, this is it for my daily posts. Boy do I hate not being able to log on anytime I want. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Hey Guys! Just checking in to say Hi! Good job Dog! We are rocking over here too.
The revelation about OW2 and the others before is actually helping me in the healing process. I just couldn't understand what he saw in OW1, but now I get it. She was a back up, like the others. Nothing more. He just took it there because of a couple of outside influences that really had nothing to do with me. I am understanding the A and his behavior and what motivated him in a way I hadn't before. So we are moving along.
He starts individual counseling tomorrow. After his bible study/support group yesterday, he was in a good mood and has been trying to be understanding and affectionate (caring for my wounds after he hit me with the MAC truck). I am making a conscience effort to recognize how he is trying and it is creating a nice environment.
Anyway, good luck guys. Tomorrow hubby is home for MLK day, so won't have much time to chat.
Thanks!
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Just checking in. Want to wish everyone a nice Sunday evening. Going to barbque some steaks and have a wonderful dinner. Then veg before dessert, no Rocked, I made chocolate pudding, ha! Glad to read we are all basically having a good day. You are all in my prayers...til tomorrow, good night.
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Good Monday Morning! Happy MLK Day to everyone. I had a pretty good weekend. Hope you did too. Well, at least we know DogMom DID!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> But since she doesn't kiss and tell we all are left to imagine. Keep building that bond back and opening yourself up to him for renewal and intimacy. I think you'll find he does the same, even if slowly.
Thanks for the emails. I read them all. I'll check back later.
Holiday, "pudding?" Is that the best you can do? C'mon now...let me know if you need Rocked's Recipe For After Dinner Delectables. It'll definitely give ya a sweet tooth. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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Hey guys! Doing well. Off bike riding with the hubby and the kids. Just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Have a blessed day
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Good afternoon! Not much going on today. Just enjoying the beautiful weather we are having. Okay Rocked-Email me those recipes! Glad to "not" read anyone being down today. I will look for you all tomorrow...
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Holiday, Do you want the version of the recipe book with pictures? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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Where oh where is everyone???? It's late in the morning and I see no one here........
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Good morning Guys!
I hope you are all doing well. Had a wonderful weekend with my family. Thanking God that I took it back from the enemy.
My husband was great this weekend. Loving, attentive and most importantly openly discussing with me his FEELINGS about things...especially the other women. It is nice to see him openning up after so many years of him being quiet. We enjoyed each other too. Last night after the kids went to bed, we played Dominos and talked about everything under the sun, but the A. Nice.
I see the OW1 on Thursday and preparing for that. I leave Friday for my weekend away to pray, reflect and meditate on my future. Keep that in your prayers for me this week.
What is up with everyone else?
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Hi 2, Glad to hear you had a good time with your H. Keeping making those positive deposits in him. Also have a blessed time away on your own. Let's not call it a retreat, let's call it an "advance!"
I appreciate your prayers.
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Hey- I'm here now... I took a little nap while waiting for a reply... 2- your weekend away will be one that will re-charge you like nothing else...
Rocked- you are not yourself- what is up? You ok?
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Just making sure you are ok today!!! Wonder how Holiday and True are doing... it seems like it's been a while.
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hey everyone! DogMom, you are right, it has been awhile, and boy have I needed my friends. 2, I am so glad your weekend went so well. That is great to hear. How is everybody else doing? DM, and Rocked I emailed you back. Hope you get them. I'll check in again, when I can. Take care all!
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Hey everyone! Since it seems like a slow day, I have an idea! Why don't you come clean Rocked and tell us what you do for a living? That might liven up this message board for the day.
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Hey everyone, Just popping in for a min. Working on my sewing and errands today. All going well and glad to read the same. I will catch up with you all later. Have a great afternoon!
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Good Wednesday Morning! I was out and about yesterday. Not as much time to hang around the pc. 2, with all you got going (birthday parties, bicycle rides, card playing with your H, meetings with people, packing for your 3-day "Advance", etc.) and you stil have time to harass me about what I do for a living?? If you want clean...why don't you come ot my house and clean! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> DM, True, Holiday...check in today and let's get this post filled up again.
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