I have to talk face to face to my WW regarding the kids.The issues are too sensible I feel for email.
What will this do to my 4 days old plan B and really how should I keep it?She has problems controling the kids with the OM moved in there with them.Now normally I wouldn't step over the boundaries I impose but she's playing the last card she has,the kids to get something from me,not sure what,more likely revenge because" I didn't fulfill her EN and she was forced into having the A and so she found her real soulmate"/ and more money.
Honestly i would like to throw in her face that really is a problem she created by having the OM move in before everything was closed and done between us,lying to the kids that is just a friend who sleeps over (yeah right,in the same bed with her),kids are 12 and 10 btw,but I know this wouldn't solve anything since she wouldn't see that,she sees only that I am the root of all the problems(because I love my kids and now I can show it to them since I don't have the daily fights anymore).
Thoughts,comments ... all welcome and appreciated.
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23 days since D day
25 days I know of since OM sleeps there
I am to blame for everything,even for the rain outside

Jeez, net,

I don't have any experience with this. Have you had a chance to talk to the kids about how they feel when your WW isn't around? I can't imagine this is easy on them at their ages. Is WW so caught up in the fantasy still that she can't see what's right for the kids?

When kids are involved I don't think you can be 100% in no contact. I would think if you could remain "businesslike" and not get side tracked then you can still keep your Plan B going. Do you think this is her way of just breaking contact or do you think it's legite?

What are you thoughts on how to approach this? I know you're asking for guidance, but I'm sure you have some idea - toss it out and we can go from there.

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<small>[ August 14, 2002, 09:02 PM: Message edited by: Free2BMe ]</small>

> Have you had a chance to talk to the kids about >how they feel when your WW isn't around? I can't >imagine this is easy on them at their ages.
Yes,the old one wants to move in with me and told his mom that iether the OM is our or he will leave.Obviously,as much as i would like him over,I cant take only him.It wouldn't be fair to the other one,who loves his mom more.
>Is WW so caught up in the fantasy still that she >can't see what's right for the kids?
Yes,she's in a "soulmate affair" and wrote me that she wouldn't let the kids tell her how to make her life.She won't let them stay with me either.

>When kids are involved I don't think you can be >100% in no contact. I would think if you could >remain "businesslike" and not get side tracked then you can still keep your Plan B going.
I'm trying but she calls for kids related issues and starts telling me how her day is/was???
>Do you think this is her way of just breaking >contact or do you think it's legite?
I think she wants more money and me to approve of her "finding the love of her life" .This is what I read from her emails.
>What are you thoughts on how to approach this? I >know you're asking for guidance, but I'm sure >you have some idea - toss it out and we can go >from there.
Well,I don't have much of an idea,I want to keep it cold and decent,I told her countless times that I don't want a fight and she should stop blaming everything on me.Well,she did try to pull me into a fight,but I was calm,polite,and she gave up,she still blames me for everything,the kids asked me why since they heard her talking to her mother.
honestly,I want her to stop calling just for no reason really,keep her part of the "deal" we make and not trying to change it every week or so.
All I need is a way to get that across,since I don't think she took my planB letter seriously enough.Obviously I don't want to burn all the bridges.
>Sorry I'm not much help!
It's OK,a debate is better then asking yourself.