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Need inspiration
#64543 09/03/03 11:56 AM
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Hello everyone, I have been on MB for a while now usually just viewing post and occasionally responding. I don't know if this is the correct forum to post on but i'll try, i've been married 4 years and i've had problems with anxiety, I cheated on my w a while back but have vowed to never cause any pain in our life like that again. I've been feeling disconnected with my wife, I don't know if it's the anxiety or what. I love my wife very much but the feeling can seem overwhelming at times and causes me to doubt myself as well as my marriage. I have a beautiful wife and daughter, I pray everday because I want to feel whole again and keep my w happy.
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#64544 09/05/03 09:38 AM
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In my own life, when I feel disconnected from my husband, it's usually when I am not close to God. When I draw close to him, I feel closer to my spouse and can figure things out easier. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Did your W discover your previous infidelity or did you confess? Did the two of you work through this period with the help of counseling?

Perhaps you are confusing anxiety with feelings of guilt or unresolved issues. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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#64546 09/09/03 12:58 AM
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First off, if you are suffering from anxiety, see a professional. Get a thereputical massage, meditate, get into yoga, anything and everything. Get it under control. Also, you may want to do something to bring the two of you into contact. Buy her flowers sometime, make her a nice dinner, run her a warm bath scented with bath salts, light candles, bring her a glass of wine or her favorite iced drink, give her this without wanting anything in return. Give her an evening every so often of love and comfort and good conversation. In the meantime, do something about that anxiety. It can turn into depression.
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Thank you everyone for your responses, Ezra I do believe that is the case and i'm working on that now. Yes, I did confess to my wife, but actually I never cheated I talked to this ow and we made plans but I never had physical contact. I know this is just as bad, we worked it out without counseling and things are getting better.
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#64548 09/14/03 10:18 PM
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in my 15 years of marriage my experience is that men and woman go through highs and low cycles that can effect how we feel about ourselves. if you have been giving yourself to her needs and neglecting your own needs then you may be feeling empty. if this is the case try recharging yourself by giving yourself some me time. go fishing, a walk in the park, or read an inspiring book. when you return you will have more to give

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