It was saturday morning, his cell phone rang, he was still asleep so i answered it and they hung up on me without saying a word. I told him i didn't know and he looked at the number and said it was his friend Randy wanting him to get him something. Well i left it at that, but then i got to thinking "why didn't he call (Randy) back right then like he does when everyone else calls him) When he got in the shower to get ready for work i wrote the number down on a paper (not that i didn't believe him completely, i just wanted to konw why i was hung up on) after he left for work, i blocked my number and called it back.. A girl named sharron answered the phone. I asked who i was talking to and she told me and i told her i must have had the wrong number and hung up, Then i got to thinking Sharron?? Could it be his ex girlfriend Sharron? The area code was not from this area so i looked in the phone book to see where it was from. West Virgina the same place that his ex girlfriend lived. I called the number back again, when sharron answered i asked if randy was there, she said he was in the shower (a sigh of relief that Randy existed) He told me he just ran into Randy again a few weeks ago, but when i got online and logged on to my cellphone account with cingular, i saw that number on the phone bill all the way back in november. Later i asked him if he called randy back, and he said "yeah and when i did that B**** sharron answered the phone" he didn't know i had callled because she didn't konw who i was so she wouldn;t have told him. Then i told him that i called the number back. When he asked my why didn't i believe him, i told him that it wasn't that i just didn't like to be hung up on.. what should i have done, wouldn't anyone else be suspicious if this happened to them??

Amanda,

Has he ever done anything to give you a reason to think he might call up his ex without telling you? I must admit that I might have been suspicious as well... Can you talk to him about how you're feeling?

C

No, he's never gave me any reason at all to think that he would be calling his ex girlfriends. Because of work it is hard to find time to actually sit down and talk with him. I work days from 9 in the morning until usually 11:30 at night 5 days a week and he works nights fron about 4 pm till about 2:30 a.m. and it's hard to catch him still long enough. We talk periodically all day long, like when I am on lunch or when he gets a break at work long enough to dial my cell. I have thought about this long and hard every since it happened and it is hard for me to get into the topic with him face to face because when i am with him, i am just so happy to see him .. and i can't explain it. So after thinking about it so long and hard, i decided that if there is ever something i want him to know all i have to do is call his friend Becky. Becky is a big mouth that if you tell her anything the whole world knows it in a matter of minutes. So i talked to her today and told her pretty much everything i wanted him to know.. She called him not 5 minutes after i got off the phone with her and spilled everything like i knew she would. I called him about 30 minutes later and we had a talk about everything and now i honestly just think that I jumped to conclusions to fast because i never get to see him that much and he wouldn't do that to me. His cell phone is in my name and I have access to the accounts and I spent my lunch today looking to see how many times he had called that number in the last 2-3 weeks and it was only on there one time and that was when he called them back when all this happened. I don't think that he is actually "Talking to her" because if he was it would be on there a lot more than that because it's the only phone he has to use. But as long as i can try not to think the worst of it, i think things might be fine. He spilled his guts to me about how he felt about me and he is the type of person that never says anything affectionate unless he means it.. I know that no matter what I will never get it completely out of my head but.... if i want to be with him, and i love him as much as I do, I have to think positive about "us" or I will be the cause if he does do somthing like that.. Right?

Amanda,
I believe that if your husband has never given you reason to not trust him, then at this point you have to believe him. I would not worry about it anymore unless he gives you a reason to worry. Sometimes we women can make mountains out of mole hills. But at the same time, don't let yourself become oblivious to what he does. Trust him if he doesn't act differently or if nothing is out of the norm for him. But be smart. Take care!
Butterfly1970

I definitely agree that if he hasn't made you suspicious before, then you should trust him. You could end up with egg on your face. I also think that you should be aware of the things around you though. Only you can watch your back. Definitely give him the benefit of the doubt!