Hey Murph,<P>Where ya been hiding???<P>Yeah......I know or at least he thinks that he is "courting" me.......can you say NOT!<BR>(I really don't want anything to do w/that.)<P>Hey......I know exactly from where you are coming from.......but,isn't that what it is all about.......didn't your stbx do something for you that you liked and she stoped.......it is the little things that make the difference.......what ever is important to the person,when you do that something.......it tells that sp that you do indeed care and love them!<P>Oh,I know........thanks for watching my back!<BR>LOL.....but you don't need to worry.....I don't want to "Date" or get serious w/someone that I work w/!......Just too messy if it doesn't work out.(and I am not leaving my job!!!!)LOL<P>Oh.....I know what you been doing.......you have been getting ready to take TS up in that SpaceNeedle!!.......(ppssssttt,I would get rid of the candles.......that would be to obvious!!!) ........LMAO<P>You do know that I am just joking w/ya.....I guess after all of this cleaning the fumes are geting to me!(Haw,heck who am I kidding,I was already like this!)LOL<P>Gina <P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Gina,<P> Well,the candles aren't so bad,but dragging my hottub up there is going to be a b*tch!<P> <BR>Yeah,you're right,but I guess I stopped doing some of those things,when she did,too.I guess we're both to blame. <P> Sorry,but I have heard some real horror stories about dating at work.Although,some people ended up getting married that way.You just need to check out his background,and his intentions,if you do get"serious".<P> Back to work,tomorrow.Yuck!<P> ~~Murph

Murph,/Arnold!!<P>LMAO........yeah...but wont the wind keep blowing out the candles?.......and I bet that you could probably get some of the other Macho Men here to help you get that hot tub up there!.......<P>Haw,heck don't worry about that .....you could just get your massage table and put up there and give her one of your famous "Danish" massages!.....LOL<P>Like I said........I don't think that it will be a big deal!......I don't want any more stress at work than I can help it!!<BR>(some of those lil guys can really have you banging your head on the chalkboard by the end of the day!)LOL<P>I know......I really shouldn't be up this late.......working tomorrow!Summer is over and I gotta start bringing in the money!<BR>LOL<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Gina,<P> Hey,that massage table sounds like a good idea.I suppose that darn wind would keep blowing her towel off,though.<P> So,you're a teacher?<P> You mean you never watched"The Blackboard Jungle","The Substitute",or"The Substitute 2"? Yikes! I wouldn't want to be in your shoes! <P><BR> ~~Murph

Murph,<P>LMAO......the towel........Ha......I didn't even think of that!.......LOL <P>I think that would be a good thing!LOL<BR>(well,maybe not since she did say that she would just throw you over for having your hands in her sweater..........)<P>But hey,I will go..........Pick me.......I need a massage!!....I don't mind a little draft!!....LMAO... :<P>Yes........well,no,I am not a certified teacher.......I am aid to one of the Kindergarten teachers.....I do have a group of kids tho that I teach on my own....a guided reading program.<P>Matter of fact last year.....we had 2 students that were reading a little bit out of 25.......by the end of the year I had all but 1 reading......into a middle 1st grade reading level!! ....so,I was pretty proud of that!<P>I loved the "Substitute".......great flick!<BR>I don't think that I have too much to worry about tho......they are only 5!...LOL<P>Gina

Gina,<BR>A lady friend of mine (Ellen)belongs to the group and someone else in the group I know(Kathy) brought my name up in and wondered if I and "Nancy" would get along.<BR>As my friend was leaving the other night she told me to call Kathy.

Gee, a woman gets lazy about posting for a couple of days and already she's being moved aside and forgotten about!!! <P>Gina,<BR>I say, give the guy a little chance. Just make sure you get to know him and do ask around about what type of guy he is! (Look who's talking...I turned down a cable guy with tattoos and a 25 year old! LOL LOL)<P>Murph,<BR>Poor Student! She just doesn't know what she's getting herself into! Should we warn her?? LOL LOL<P>Bob,<BR>Call Kathy!!!! I agree! If a woman tells you that some women were talking about you, it was more than likely positive.<P>Mitzi

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>you never know who you will run into accidentally!<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>meaning RICH, HANDSOME, MISTER M.B. RIGHT!<P>not mr. murph, <BR>not mr. whenifindthetime, <BR>not mr. rwd,<BR>not mr. medic238,<BR>not mr. rebound,<BR>not mr. loser,<BR>not mr. Ed. . . . (wilbuurrr!)<P>you get my drift!<P>thl

I can't even imagine dating! But maybe that is what I should do!

Gina,<P>I was out of town this weekend,so I missed your post!<P>Glad to hear you had a nice time anyhow, and wondering, how did it go at school today??<P>Dana<BR>

Bob,<P>Man........sounds good.....call her!<BR>what ya got to lose right?...... <P>Mitzi,<P>Hey there.......I think that we ar working different shifts now.......LMAO...... <BR>Playing MB online tag!...LOL<P>Hey...it is ok if you don't want to talk about your cable guy......I know.....I know,you can e-mail me and then give me all of the juicy gossip....I am needing some excitement it my life right about now.<BR><<<<<<<<< YAWN >>>>>>>>>>>>>><P>You know.......poor TS,but I think that she can handle her self!.....LOL <P>THl,<P>LMAO........ ..I don't get it <P>Sure......sure,man do you know how to ruin a girls fun!!!!.. :<P>HIO,<P>If you can't even imagine your self dating than you know that you are not ready to do that......and you need to give it time!<BR>I do think that there is still hope.....she is just confused.......<P>Just hang in there!<P>Dana,<P>LOL........did you have a good weekend?<BR>It is ok that you missed it......no biggie,really!!<P>We all have a fun time......and it is a great feeling to know that you are still found attrative by the oppisite sex!!!<BR>(YIPPEE)...... <P>It was great talking w/him.......but I don't see my self wanting more from him.I think that it would be a nice thing just to hang out every once in a while and shoot the crap.<BR>(I can do that so well!!)....LOL<P>Work was pretty crazy........we had testing today.......tomorrow as well!<P>We don't actually start until Wed....and even then it will only be half of the class.<BR>So,it isn't so bad.........that is until Friday rolls around!.......AAAAAaaahhhhhhh.<BR>LOL<P>You all take it easy.....I have got to get this blondes beauty sleep.(Dang what am I gonna wear tommorrow????....what is a girl to do???)....LOL<P>Gina<P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Gina,<P>Yes, it feels good to know you've still "GOT IT", doesn't it? LOL<P>You too, are coming out of a painful experience and its great to see clearly. There is no need to SETTLE Down immediately, or rush, but just to follow your heart and have some fun. (in a safe sort of way)<P>Keep remembering that its all about YOU and what makes YOU happy. I did have a relationship with someone from work once. It was fine while it was good, but awkward when it ended. Ughhh.<P>Good luck!!! Dana<BR>

Gina,<P>just pointing out that although we here at MB can learn alot about each other and our situations, we are not good mate material. <BR>just because our situations are common does not mean we the couple have stuff in common. That is the important part.<P>Say you found a man here on MB who is in your shoes exactly. You would feel a great understanding of his position, and somewhat of him. but mostly of the common experience. Remove that experience, and you two may have had NOTHING in common. so that is why it is important to explore men to find out what you like, all the different situations, etc.<BR>remember there is alot to choose from.<P>We all live thousands of miles away, we are all in needy situations, and alot of us are hurting, although alot are recovering well.<P>We all know each other pretty well, but the timing is not right nor should it be. Remember, one divorce workshop, i think NSR said, recovery is 6 months for every year of marriage.<P>we all have a long way to go.<P>so date with no expectations, just practice for that one accidental meeting, years from now when you are well, independent, and very self assured, for the M.B.RIGHT<BR>(that's Marriage Builder's Right, a rich, attractive, sensuous man willing to spend his life being a conversationalist, a recreational companion, and a husband.)<P>thl

THL,<P>You mean that you can't have a relationship or mate when you live 1,500 miles apart??<BR> .........(man,so that is what I am doing wrong!!).......LOL<P>I am just playing..........You know that right?....I do know and do understand from where you are coming from!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Say you found a man here on MB who is in your shoes exactly. You would feel a great understanding of his position, and somewhat of him. but mostly of the common experience. Remove that experience, and you two may have had NOTHING in common.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>It does take a lot more of just the commonality of both people having marriages end in D........<P>I believe that 2 people for a relationship to grow and to thrive and last.......is the fact that they do need to have things in common.There goals,dreams and expectations of life......raising children,Religion,Recreational Companionship,Sex.........(which is a biggie on my list.)......LOL Music,and so on!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Remember, one divorce workshop, i think NSR said, recovery is 6 months for every year of marriage.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I don't know if I really agree w/that.<BR>Well, I would say I don't think it is wise to get re-married right away so soon after a D,but I don't think that it is a big deal to find someone that you are interested in, date...........date for a long time........long time........at least a good couple of years!.....then you know if you are ready or even want to make a life long commitment!(and as Harley has said that is when the intence feelings of "in-love" fade and you have a better idea of the real feelings of LOVE.<P><BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>so date with no expectations, just practice for that one accidental meeting, years from now when you are well, independent, and very self assured, for the M.B.RIGHT<BR>(that's Marriage Builder's Right, a rich, attractive, sensuous man willing to spend his life being a conversationalist, a recreational companion, and a husband.)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Ok.........so,do you have a crystal ball or something????..........do you know something that I don't????..... ..........LOL<P><BR>Of the most part I do agree w/you.<BR>I just don't see my self as this "Dating" QUEEN!.....I am just not that kind of person.<BR>(Even in Highshcool I didn't date around.)<P>I will continue to take each day as it comes and just go from there!.....(in the mean time I will have to wine and dine my SM) <BR>LMAO!<P>P.S..............<BR>I have been asigned to help out w/the Kindergarten PE class.So,Now I have to work WITH.......PE stud!!.....aaaaahhhh<P>Today when we were coming in from being done,he was walking behind me........(yeah,we all know what he was doing... )LOL....He actually asked me if that was me that smelled so nice!.......LOL<P>Ha.......it is kinda funny bc I am wearing the perfum that my stbx bought for me for my Birthday.........(It is awsome!!!!!)<P>Anyway you all take care.............<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

as I said, you never know who you might meet.<P>He just could be the one! find out if he has an email address, and date him in the new millenium fashion, ELECTRONICALLY!<P>BTW, is he older/younger/single or divorcee?<P>as I said before, date, date, and more dates!<P>see you in NV!<P>thl

Hi Gina:<P>I’m just nosing around here today and saw your thread. Man, this could be a dangerous place for me with all these gorgeous available women here. I know where to come fishing if I’m ever in the market. That is if Murphy doesn’t snag you first. <P>Wishing you the best<P><BR> <P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Scott

THL,<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>find out if he has an email address, and date him in the new millenium fashion, ELECTRONICALLY!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Yes......he does have an e-mail address(or at least a work one.a home one I don't know about.)You are joking right???......LOL<P>Actually,and I hope that this isn't strange or weird.I have thoughts.....ok,so I have fantazied about being in a relationship,and we are actually together....(married)....and to keep things exciting we "Chat" back and forth on the internet......I send him little e-mails.....like what he has to look forward to when he comes home from work.(If you get my meaning.) I e-mail him "Pix" of me to his work.(just to try and keep things new and fresh.....and so on!).......LOL<P>Ok,so I know........I just can't shut it off.<BR>LMAO....... <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>BTW, is he older/younger/single or divorcee?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Ha......LOL......this is really stupid,but I don't have any idea.....now w/working I have barely had the time to catch my breath.<P>I will find out tho........this may sound really shallow.....but I have made a promise to my self that I would not date or get involved w/any man younger than 36.Like,36-48<BR>I think that is a good range.LOL..... <P>Take it easy.......... <P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Hey Scott,<P>Hey buddy!!........how are you doing???<P>Yeah......there are great people here!! <P>I know that you are only joking around.<P>All I can say is when I do find the man of my dreams............He will be a very TIRED MAN!!! ....(I will strive for the rest of my life to never ever take my man forgranted again!!)<P>Only problem is he will have to be able to put up w/all of my "babbling"........(hey,as a man do you think that is worth that???)<BR>LOL<P>Well you will have to tell Murph that he is one LUCKY DUCK!!.........LMAO... <P>I hope things are going better for you.<BR>Hey........drop me a line and let me know,if I can help.<P>Hang in there!!!<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

THL,<P>Oh.........He is single......never been married and no children.......(but I got to watch him in action today.........he is wonderful w/the kids!).......<P>It is a shame that he has to work at the same place.....I have thought about it and wont date him.(working buds only.)<P>Gina<P>

maybe, for now,<P>there are other schools to work at, him I mean. Maybe next year he will be at one of them. and then you can do something occasionally.<P>Hmmmm, why older men, seems like you need a younger one to keep up with you? And older guys get grey hair sooner? is grey a good color? they also kick the bucket earlier in your lifetime, so you thinking about collecting insurance and living the good life in retirement?<P>Oh, I get it, you were only trying to make murph feel good, so he would be considered a candidate!<P>Murph, do you have a sizable insurance policy for Gina? she's a sly one <P>thl<P><BR>