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This is my first time here...<BR>My wife had an affair and I filed for divorce early this year. We have a beautiful 11mos. daughter. The divorce is not finalized yet but are in the final process. I'm starting to see someone else just recently. I'm paying for her day care and child support every month. I have to be supervised by her during my visitation. So far so good. Unfortunately, last month, during the visitation, I brought up the past and we began an agument. She slapped me a few times and said that I'm not the baby father (DNA has proven that I'm the father). I was pissed and outraged. I took off and from then on, didn't want to turn back. I became careless of my daughter. I do not want to see her or my daughter anymore. If she allow me to take my dauther home, then I'll visit the baby, otherwise I don't want to face her anymore. What do you think I should do? I have a feeling she stills loves me and wants our relationship to work out. But she causes me so much pain, I don't have unconditional love for her. Any suggestion...
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Go to court and request visitation rights through another person (third party). This is so she will drop baby at a mutually agreed place such as grandparents or a good friend, then she has to go, then you come and pick up D, then drop her off again without seeing the wife. If you don't have a mutual friend who can do this for you, the child support people may allow pick up and drop off at their offices.<P>
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She did. She offered me 2 options: 1) To have her sister supervised me 2). To drop her off in a public superivisitation place. I declined both offered. I'm not a criminal or abusive person. I don't need anyone to supervised my visitation behaviour with my D. I want to have my personal time with my D alone but she wouldn't allow that. She keep on thinking that I would abuse and hurt our D. She doesn't trust me at all. I love my D very much and she's only 11mos. For crying out loud!!
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Are your visits supervised because of a court order, or is it something she has imposed on you?
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The court ordered the supervised visitation.
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