All alone now except for the 4 boys. He is gone & moved some of his cloths out last week. It is killing me especially today. I have noone except my children. I am so tired of living my days crying, depressed, worried. One day at a time, but all the days are the same. What do I do? I will never be able to do all this.

How old are your boys? I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all this. It's very hard. I have four boys of my own and am going through the same thing. Tell us a little bit about what's happened to you. People around here are really great, and all going through a lot of the same things. We can survive, and we will be stronger, although it may not seem like it now. I'm doing a lot of crying, too.
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Lots and lots of hugs and prayers for you!

It is hard to deal with. Being alone is scary, and the thought scares me. Probably the only source of information I could tell you right now, is to seek a Dr. for anti-depressants. This is real pain, real feelings, and the hurt does get less, but mine hasn't yet. But I have been told that it gets less.<p>Your boys are your salvation now. Work with them, tell them you are depressed and going to seek help. Your boys need to know the full story, and do not lie to them. You have been lied by your H, you need to be the one to show the boys that all adults are not liars. <p>Sorry can't help in any other way. I am not doing that great myself. But I think badly for the boys as well as you. I know what my H's affair has done to us.

The boys are going to be this year: 17, 16, 11 & 6. They are beautiful children. My husband of 11 years - been together 15 (two oldest sons not his, but he raised them)...fell in love w/ someone else & said he just could not take our marriage anymore...he said I gave him physical & mental abuse & we fought to much. Even though that is tough for me to see or any of our friends or family. He packed some of his cloths and moved in w/ his brother. He comes back to visit w/ the boys every day & they go over to the brothers sometimes for a couple hours. He says he will always be here for the boys. He wants them to spend the night one night this weekend. It kills me...I want our family together not apart. We own our own buisness & work full time...I am just not holding up to all of this. I begged him to stay numerous times so we could get help and find out what the problem in our marriage was. He refused me. I am on meds, but they are not helping today. I had to take one of the tranquiler pills to get me thru the rest of my work day. Everyone here has flowers, cards etc from their special husbands. I did last year...this year my life is gone. I am just tired of living in hell. I don't know how I am going to raise 4 boys...keep them clothed, fed, entertained etc. Money is now going to be nonexistant. I just don't know how to get on. I know I have to just do it, but I can not stop this cycle. Sorry if I a rambling.

You will be just fine. In times like this just make it one day at a time. Plan everything out, I know it sounds hard but believe me it helps. I have three children 14, 11, 9 and we are getting through this, we have no choice and better yet we are doing it with a smile on our faces. Listen , start working on yourself and the children. Look for a great "D" attorney.. do that now. Is there any hope that you both will get past this?. Only you know the answer, but if you think it's a no then get the best attorney you can find and all the records of his income. You need to protect yourself. You will get past this and your boys will lead the way.!

You may want to give us some more details about your situation so we can give you more specific advice. Have you read the info. on this site about Plan A and Plan B. Is this something you think you'd like to try?<p>You can also go to www.divorcebusting.com and there are some books that are recommended there too.<p>Basically right now, you need to ge ta support system in place - family, friends, counselor, priest/minister, God. You need to focus on yourself and your boys. Take it one day or one hour at a time of you need to. Use this time to stengthen your relationship with God, and He'll get you through this.<p>Hang in there. K