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WE HAVE MAJOR SEXUAL PROBLEMS. WE ARE BOTH TIMID. DOES ANYONE KNOW OF AUDIOCASSETTE TAPES WE CAN PURCHASE TO HELP US WITH THIS PROBLEM?
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It would help a great deal if you could shed some light on the type of problems you are having. Is it lack of general knowledge? Are you looking for ways to enhance what you already know? Are there medical issues here? Or is it simply that you know what you want and don't know how to tell your spouse? Many will offer help if you can be more specific.<P>Mud
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Mudder:<BR><B>It would help a great deal if you could shed some light on the type of problems you are having. Is it lack of general knowledge? Are you looking for ways to enhance what you already know? Are there medical issues here? Or is it simply that you know what you want and don't know how to tell your spouse? Many will offer help if you can be more specific.<P>Mud</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Our issues are my husband feels inadequate to please me even after me trying to help him understand what "feels good" to me. So now he just won't try inspite of me encouraging him. He always wants me to take the initiative but I have little desire w/o him being the aggressor and seeking to turn me on. <BR>
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Ok, the problem is that he is too passive. Com'on gang you'all must have some resources or ideas for this lady!!<P>Mud
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<small>[ January 27, 2005, 07:25 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>
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I have heard that the book "Intended for Pleasure" (by Wheat) is very good, but I've never read it. It is written from a Christian perspective, and is one I've seen reviewed positively.
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I need some advice if theres some one that will be willing to help me.My husband and I get along great except for some every day promblems.But our biggest one is that he says I don't satisfy him sexually. Iam always the agresser, he could go weeks w/out it.He says he is tired of me always having my orgasims on top.He likes oral sex,Idon't have a promblem with that.The promblem is that when we got married a few yrs. ago he said it was boring and I needed to pratice.He said he should'nt have to tell me where it feels good at that I should know.This is really hard for me.Ireally need some advice.
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Sunny, Your H really should be concerned with making you feel insecure with all that pressure! You poor thing! I've been married 11 years now and was pretty timid in the beginning I can think of a few suggestions... suckers and ice cream cones if eaten right can get a guy really excited. Talking dirty probably wouldnt hurt either. Most of all, teasing very slowly and softly seems to work wonders. I'm guessing you've not been married very long. Sex only gets better with time so be patient and tell your H to try and be more patient and less demanding. If he relieves some of the pressure on you it would sure be alot easier for both of you. Good luck!
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Sunny,<P>Just exactly why does your H think you should "just know" how to pleasure him? Nobody is born with that knowledge, everyone's preferences and responses are personal. He needs to show you what he likes and you show him what you like. Make it fun, not an arena of conflict.
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Lynn31,<BR> I was married the first time for 14yrs.<BR>Iwas single for a year then remarried,we've been married almost 5yrs.Inever thought I would be going to the internet for advice on my love life,but sometimes the best advice comes from people you don't know.Hopefully this will all work out. We comminuciate pretty well except on this one matter.I've tried the ice cream and anything eles I could think of that would make a difference.He just looks at me and acts like he does'nt get the hint.I will keep trying thanks.<BR> <BR>
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Concerned, there's nothing wrong with reading instructions on how to perform oral sex. One well written item is at :<BR> <A HREF="http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html</A> <P>I can definitely empathise with your husband's discomfort giving personal instructions.
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Oops. I meant that for Sunny, not Concerned. Sorry
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