My H and I seperated a little over 2 months ago. He told me that he had feelings for one of my girlfriends who is also married. He said that we fought too much for him to stay with me, and he wanted a divorce. He moved into his mothers house and has been staying there ever since. We have a 5 year old boy, who is taking this very hard. He has always been a daddy's boy, and now that daddy isn't home, he is very angry with me. He is doing poorly in school and the only option that my H is offering is to let my son stay with him when he wants. I'm not so sure that that is the best idea, but don't want to keep hurting my son. My H has already had the divorce papers drawn up, and I'm sure they will be served to me at anytime now. I desperately want to work on the marriage. We have been together for 12 years, married 6. We were high school sweethearts and I am still very much in love with him. We still have occasional sex, he still tells me occasionally that he loves me, but he don't want to come home. He won't talk about the OW, so I don't know if she's in the picture still or not. I have severed all ties with her, so I don't know anything about their relationship. Do I just give up on my marriage even if I still love him? If anyone can shed some light on this for me, I would really appreciate the advise. I'm going crazy on the emotional roller-coaster. Thanks.

NO! YOU DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR MARRIAGE! There are a few who would differ-but in your shoes-would they really? I Don't think so. Take it slow. You fell in love young-yes, but the time is on your side-try to be <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> patient!

thank you for the encouragement. I really think that he still loves me, and that there is hope. I have tried applying all that I have read on this site to my life, hoping that he will see the changes I'm willing to make. I want him to come home, but more importantly, if I could just see the small steps that he's willing to work on the marriage.

BFK,

I know how you feel. I didn't want a divorce either. My husband left 2y and 9m ago. He filed for divorce and praise God it still has not happened. Please go to this web site and read testimonies and order book.It will give you hope and teach you what to do. www.restorem.org
Please go and if you want I will send my email address.

gentle

I'm not sure where our divorce stands. I had received the original Draft and made a list of changes that would have to be made if we were going to go through with the divorce. He agreed to all my changes (shows how much he wants out of the marriage), but when a week later I asked about the changes, he said he still had not read the papers himself. I haven't mentioned them again since that day...I'm not sure if I should bring it up or not. If I stay quiet and don't remind him, will he keep talking to me and see the changes in me, or do I say something and try to prepare myself for the future? It's such a hard decision for me to make. I can see a big change in me, and I can tell he sees the changes too...but I'm not sure if they are a little too late.

If you want him back, don't talk about the divorce unless you have to. You haven't been seperated that long.
I was seperated 8 mos early in my first marriage(later divorced him because of his drinking) but we reconciled the day the divorce was suppose to be finalized.
So its really never too late. He could easily turn back into "himself" after a few months.
Hang in there and keep the faith. I'll be praying for you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />