Okay, Here's the scoop...

I do a personals and have only been out with one guy so far. Most just aren't my type, and then I have been rejected a few times as well..btw, I am so amazed at how many guys don't want a woman 5'0 tall, they prefer taller...and also amazed at how many caucasion men prefer Asian women...not that anything is wrong with that...just had no idea there were that many out there...and of course there are those men who are my age and want 20 year olds... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Anyway, a man wrote me yesterday and he said he doesn't put his picture on his profile but will email it to me. He also said he hasn't dated for 5 years since his divorce because his ex wasn't very interested in the children and he had them most of the time, but says now she is getting involved and he is ready to date.

So, I really liked that he seems like a dedicated father and typically I would never write back to someone who didn't send a picture the first time, mMainly because I hate hurting their pride if I ask for a picture and then don't like the outcome...so...I wrote him back and said "yes please send a pic"...

Here's the funny part of his reply....

Also one more thing, i will send the picture if you still want, but i dont want to waste your time with me, and i wasnt trying to hide anything but really wanted to know if i would get a response, so since you did, i do thank you for that, but the one thing i havent told you about me, well the six things i havent told you about me, is my kids,, LOL they are 12, 11, 10, 9, 7, 4, the 7 year old is the only girl and she runs the house, and that is why i havent done much for 5 years, but they are at a good place with the divorce and since my ex is spending more and more time with them, i thought i would try this.

I am still laughing, that's too funny...but you know what, I love children so it doesn't scare me off at all. Well, the only thing that scares me is knowing none of them have gone through teenage years yet! After my own son starting to go through it, that's just scary!!!

Anyway, still haven't got a picture yet. He says, this...

Hey, i will send my picture soon, i know that sounds like a line, but i crashed my computer, i just formatted it, and have been all over the internet looking for the drivers to get it working, i found the one for my sound, the video driver i found wont get 256 color so it looks bad, so i havent got to the scanner and cdr, etc. and all my pictures were lost when i reformatted it. i will buy a video accelerator tomorrow if i cant find it tonight i am tired of looking, so i will send it tomorrow or tuesday.

Well, Just wanted to share this with you!

ANNA

<small>[ June 01, 2003, 09:17 PM: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</small>

Way to go Anna. Just be patient, and if the picture doesn't come in 2 or 3 weeks, then I would wonder. That is a lot of kids, but kids make life so interesting.

I would say he is the dedicated father, spent many hours with his kids, and has a good attitude. He raised them, and I would give all respect to him for doing this.

Most men would of given less, and put more towards themselves. He sounds great so far. Just waiting to hear about your first impression when you see his picture.

Also, the pastor of my church talked about the internet. He talked about how the internet has destroyed marriages. How it has shown Satan to have power over the human mind. The internet has good value, but humans are so mislead by topics that could be dangerous to human health. I personally, wouldn't go into internet dating. Not my cup of tea. I want a christian man. A man that devotes his life to God, and wants to fellowship in Gods path, and be a part of the church. I want a man who is active in the church. It would be wonderful if the man I find, was active in the band of the church. Just a thought. But I am not seeking a man right now. I don't trust men, and my husband is still showing me that he is an untrustworthy man.

I would run, but then I would want to see his picture. It is kind of a catch22. Just see what happens. Don't rush into anything. Enjoy your life, your time for you, and get your life on the right path. Men are all jerks anyways. Hee Hee. At least the ones we had were. yep, Yep!

Faith4me,

Thanks for the advice. I am gonna just take it one email at a time, hehe...More than likely he won't be my type, most aren't...

How much ya'll wanna bet me that his ex is WS and he's the BS and she is finally 5 years later coming out of her fog? Any bets?

ANNA

wow Anna this even brings me out of hiding!!
I am interested more in if he has a good job:)
think of taking everyone to McD's it would run a
good $100.00 for one meal.

remember the movie with Lucille Ball with all the kids she had and the guy she married..he had a lot of kids two..they had I think 18 between them. it was a funny movie but in real life
I think it wa hectic and it was a true story.
anyone remember the name of it?

well I think this is exciting will be watching for your posting..and I think that we have our own movie here, on this board and then comedy too. if someone were to do it, maybe we could all
get some profits, we would have love, comedy,
tear jerkers galore. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Well I am going back to hiding, but am praying for you that things will work out. maybe he is good at repairing things.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Do you make good lasagne? or spagetti? think of some good dinners for many..lol..
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> take care..Be safe..
Keep On Keeping on!!

Sad eyes, That's so funny that I took you out of hiding! Too cute!

Yep, I do make awesome lasagne as well as spaghetti, mainly because I make homemade spaghetti sauce for both. It's a recipe from an Italian family and then was changed up a little by my ex. I also make homemade meatballs to go with the spaghetti. Oh gosh! I am making myself very hungry!

Also, because I came from Arkansas I make really good biscuits and gravy, (can't top my mom's gravy yet though) chicken n' dumplins, soup beans, pork chops and fried potatoes...hehe...Gosh that sounds southern. ...Just realizing I didn't eat dinner...Great!

Oh gosh! The thought of cooking for 10 people! My two children, his 6 children, he and I....holy cow! Ten people! Every night...!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Well, I hope I don't have any nightmares tonight! Night all.

ANNA

P.S.
I saw that movie too but can't think of the name.

<small>[ June 01, 2003, 10:20 PM: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</small>

Cheaper By The Dozen - isn't that the name. He was an efficiency expert/production engineer sort. Seems like I've read the book and that it is, basically, a true story.

Was the movie Yours Mine and Ours?

I'm not sure but was that the one where the little boy goes to his mom's bedroom in the morning and starts yelling "There's a man in Mommy's bed! There's a man in Mommy's bed!!" and one of the older kids shows up with a baseball bat?

This subject reminds me of the recent commercial that was shown before Mother's Day. It's the one where the little girl brings her mom breakfast in bed--

Am I the only one who found it odd that the little girl didn't know which sides of the bed her mom and dad(?) slept on? She went to the wrong side. I think I'm too cynical because it looked to me like the little girl was surprised that it wasn't her mom on that side of the bed and it didn't seem like the "man in Mommy's bed" reacted the way a daddy would. Also, when she went to the other side of the bed with the tray, it seemed like the guy wasn't really part of the Mother's Day treat, more like just someone who happened to be there.

Ok, all this from a 30-second commercial--I'm sure I'm too cynical.

The funny thing is that I also thought of the movie scene that I described above even though I haven't seen that movie in years, and now it's mentioned on this thread. How weird is that?

Anna, I wouldn't let the number of kids scare you. I am one of 7 kids and I never did get the hang of cooking for a family of only 5, so we always had leftovers. Well, that was until my boys became teens, then it was not enough!

Wait, how many of his kids are boys <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ? Ok, I guess you can let it scare you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Cheaper By the Dozen--was that the one with Clifton Webb and he gets killed on his way to the train station? It's been years since I've seen that movie so I might be confused.

Speaking of Clifton Webb, I liked the first Mr. Belvedere movie but not the subsequent ones.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Was the movie Yours Mine and Ours?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes that was it! Yours mine and hours!

another one that was good With 6?(or7?)you get eggroll!

there were a few good movies with children in them. one I think had Doris Day!
I think I will check those out sometime soon.
I enjoy movies with children in them:)

I enjoy children too ANNA...only not 24 hours at a time anymore..this lady is AGED...as someone Someone referred to their dad..I am almost 60 most of you are in your 20' 30' 40 I am full of wisdom..or ??

Well this will be fun to watch this thread! We will help you ALL we can on here!

was thinking that women was pregnant at first more then not..maybe she just ran away!! from home.

Will pray that God gives you wisdom, Anna.

Keep on Keeping on!
time to hide again!
although I AM getting very lonley here, after 9 at night! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Hey guys!

Well, it's Tuesday, he said Monday or Tuesday he'd send a picture. No email as to why he hasn't send a picture either....

Oh well... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

ANNA

Hey Anna!

that's one

UNDEPENDABLE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

you can do a RATE A DATE!! lol.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
seriously perhaps he got cold feet or a sick child!
anyway hope your doing well.

I am here reminicing bad thing to do isn't it?
well today is June 3'rd and I use to really enjoy summer now I don't even go out on my patio..
it hasn't been to nice out latley but today was
really a beautiful day. I am wondering how I can
get out of this slump I am in.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

well take care and keep us posted about your new friend.

I Can imagine he keeps pretty busy and school is out now, so things are probably hopping there..

they need a just a chit chat message board in here..for daily talks coffee chat..or something.
so we don't clog their boards with everyday happy chatter..lol <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

take care, keep on keeping on..

"Cheaper by the Dozen" starred Myrna Loy and William Powell, and they only had 12 kids. Yes, he was an efficiency expert..to the point that he demonstrated the fastest way to bathe to his kids. The funniest part (to me!) of that movie is where some woman from an organization that promoted birth control (this movie was set in the early 1900s) came to their house to talk to the wife about getting involved, and they paraded all 12 of their kids into the living room...flabbergasting the BC lady. LOL! There was also a funny part where the father chaperoned one of the daughters to a party and made an idiot of himself. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I do think that "Yours, Mine, and Ours" was the movie starring Lucille Ball, although I can't remember the costar. They were both widowed, and I think that one had 8 kids and the other had 9 kids. After marrying, then they had one together, for a total of 18. They eventually legally adopted each others kids.

Can you tell that I love old movies? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

BTW, he said that his wife has ignored the children for the past FIVE years, yet he has a FOUR-year-old?

If he sends a pic and looks acceptable, I'd do a background check on him before meeting him...just to be on the safe side, y'know?

<small>[ June 04, 2003, 12:44 PM: Message edited by: Lady Clueless ]</small>

Hi Sad eyes,

Sorry you were feeling lonely last night. I know we all have those days and they are no fun.

I thought about all the many reasons he couldn't send his picture either, including the fact his computer may be down totally.

Loving Boundaries I meant to tell you and forgot early...it was so funny when you said, "Wait he has how many boys." I can't imagine when they are all teens and I'd have to feed that crew every night!

Lady Clueless,

Have you considered changing your name to Lady Detective? I can't believe I overlooked the fact he says he has a 4 year old but divorced 5 years. It could happen though, let's say his 4 year old his close to 5 now and they split either during her pregancy or right after...then that would be why he's saying 5 years. But still, that is something to look into...of course now I may not have to since he never sent pictures.

Well, gonna go take a chill pill. I have had a really, REALLY bad day at work!

ANNA

I don't want to be the pessimist here, but be careful. Your description of this man (except mine had 3 kids not 6) sounds awfully familiar to me since I lived it. Met the "perfect" man via personal ads. He had custody of his kids and didn't date for 5 years (was even celebate so he says) after his divorce. He even was a pastor! Wow! Married him, had a daughter together, lived thru the h..of raising his teenage kids, he said goodbye. He's 42, left me this past Feb. for a 21 year old girl. He was in bed with her within 2 weeks of moving from our house--so much for waiting this time! His kids are 22, 20 and 18! He doesn't see anything wrong with the choices he is making. So I hope this isn't the same thing, but do be careful.

Wow Unfocused! That's a horror story! I am so sad for you. Well, a person can never be too careful, I am going to try real hard, no matter who I date, to look for those red flags! Thanks again!

ANNA

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Anna we will pray for your protection.
I also think maybe he was working on his puter and hasn't gotton it back together again.

as I remember he was, going to make some major repairs to it and add some things and perhaps he
didn't get the thing to do the pic with.

but then maybe we are making excuses for him.lol.
Anna there is a url below is to a book that has good information for both men and women..the book by stormy martin..check it out and buy both the womens and the mens..it is really good an excerpt is on line someone else posted it earlier in a post but don't know who to give credit for..oh well..keep on keeping on.

Unfocused
is that man you use to still a minister?
while you were married to him was he still preaching? Well I guess that was a rough marriage for you. take care. Please know that God is love.I went to 5 churches that ministers left their wives and the church. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
keep on keeping on!

http://crosswalk.com/family/marriage/849360.html

Thanks SE!

I was thinking about you saying you were in a slump today. Do you exercise? If I don't walk or something I get in slumps. It is amazing how you can get those endorphins going and be happier just over walking a couple of miles a day.

Take care,

ANNA

oh Anna I don't have a long enough air hose.
to walk even one mile!

I am on oxygen 24 hours a day. I go to the doctor on friday. I want to excercise so bad.
I use to walk alot and jog, till I ended up with arthritis no cartlide had the shots in knees etc..nothing works even glucosamine.

I wrecked my body taking care of disabled husband.
lifting etc.

well not I got sick and almost died they thought I had a flu and it was my heart.
I had symptoms of coughing bad and thought it was bronchitis..my heart function is 17% hopefully my next echo will show improvement. my lungs had fluid and heart is enlarged with fluid.

I need to excercise, I wasn't able to even walk across the room till a month ago. it came as a shock to me.

Pray that I get a good report on Frid I am on 12 different meds and denied hospital treatment.
I don't want to go to one, I hear people with heart failure have to go alot if we are not compensated meaning doing ok..I refuse..
they told me I will live maybe 4 or 5 years they can't really tell me how long.
so we will see what God has planned for me..that is one reason I am in a slump. I got a pilates
I can work out on, a treadmill, bike,trampoline.
it was not for lack of excercise:( also stretching etc the stretching I still do..

I am able to walk across the room without falling over and he has me on meds for fluid I actually lost 20 lbs of fluid I didn't even know I had that except was hard to breath and it sounded like people talking in my chest..argh..

so I am planning on getting better.
I could not even talk..I lost my voice from one of the meds they gave me the antibiotics they gave me gave me that swollen throat and then got thrush and yeast in my whole body that almost did me in too..I could not talk for 2 weeks..

the symptoms were like panic attacks for my heart and the heart specialist was surprised no one ever told me I had heart trouble cause he said it was from a viral infection..Probably when I was young..

geezz I should just e-mail you again instead of writting all this on your post..

so I sit waiting to be 60 wondering whats going to happen to me..I am going through things and my daughter has been coming over and getting my groceries and doing a couple things I can't do.

but I am trying to do most of the things myself now I am getting and feel stronger, and I think I am on all the right meds now.

take care of you and take vitamins I took lots of them probably why I was still here..lol..and Gods hand is on me..so my doctor agrees..that Gods grace and His eye is on me..so please just pray that I get a good report Friday. My daughter will go with me..we have a great time together. she lives 3 hours away so she spends the night goes back the next day..I hate having help I am use to helping others..
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Keep on keeping on...

Anna, I wouldn't write him off just yet. If he's telling the truth it's probably hard to find time to get everything set up on his computer. Heck, just think of how much time it takes to cook all that food for dinner! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Keep updating us ok? This can be a fun exercise in Red Flags--are they or aren't they?

Btw, I noticed the 5-yrs/4-yr-old thing also. I have a couple reasonable explanations in mind. I'll reserve my Red Flag vote on that one for when he explains it (if he does).

So, does anybody have any more brag stories? That's a sure pick me up for me and this is a week I can sure use it.

Take care

SE, oh my goodness! I'm happy to hear of your improvement and hope on Friday you get news of more improvement.

Now I understand what you mean by Keep on keeping on.

Keep on keeping on SE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />