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Well, thank you all for all your support. I spent 2 1/2 hours with my H tonight at D's softball game. I just wanted to have fun and cheer her on, but he kept asking questions. Finally, I asked him, "can you say to me that you have even an ounce of love left for me?" and he couldn't. I will start Plan B tomorrow. But not to get him back. He is at OW's house tonight and my only D is there too. Nothing I can do about it. So Plan B will be for me and my mental health, not to try to get him back. He is an awful man. How could he let our 7 year old daughter see him spend the night with another woman while he is still married to me? I wanted to go get her but couldn't because he has a right to his D on his nights. I pleaded with him to have sense and to instill certain values within her by not letting her see that he was sleeping with this woman. But I failed. Seems I failed in many areas. Anyway, please tell me what I should write in my Plan B letter. Keep in mind, I do not want this man back anymore. I could never love a man so selfish and inconsiderate. I am above this man. But tonight, I will sink low enough to wish he rots in Hell.
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There is a better life waiting for you out there. Working on yourself is the way to go.
Do things for yourself to rise up.
I know you are hurting. So many of us have been where you are.
All we can do is the next best thing.
Aly
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Anyway, please tell me what I should write in my Plan B letter. Keep in mind, I do not want this man back anymore.
[sarcasm mode on]
If that’s how you feel, then you shouldn’t write him a Plan B letter, you should divorce him.
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You shouldn’t do Plan B yet. You should do Plan calm down and get yourself settled and work out a plan.
He is at OW's house tonight and my only D is there too.
You shouldn’t allow her to be around ow at all. Doesn’t matter if it’s “his night” or not.
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I asked my lawyer if there was anything I could do about him taking her and spending their time together with OW, he said "no." I really wanted to drive over there and "snatch" her away and bring her home, but don't want to appear "unstable." I know my values are the right values and I will talk to D tomorrow about it all, but feel like my hands are tied. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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