I started a plan B the end of May. My H has been gone a year next week. For those of you that might remember my earlier post (I haven't posted in awhile) he is having an affair with a girl that used to work with him. I believe the affair started while they worked together but she has since quit her job and moved to my hometown. He is still maintaining to his family and everyone else that nothing is going on. She must be nuts to put up with him hiding her this long. I think she must think she is going to have a lot of money and therefore a better life. HA!!Up until May I had called him periodically and asked him to work with me on the problems. He wouldn't hear of it-no emotions. When I do need to communicate with him I write him a letter. He has only called once I think during this time to discuss selling an old car. I keep hoping that the affair will die a natural death and he will wake up and want to come back but so far things seem to be going ok for them. Our divorce is supposed to be final Oct. 20. I don't know if I can take seeing them together. I'm not sure how he will bring her out though since he has told his whole family and everyone at work that they are just friends. I know I am projecting but I don't think my daughter will be able to stand seeing him with another woman either. Any thoughts??

Wow Bailey, our stories are so similar. H started affair(I think) 8/98 and I discovered it 11/98. I confronted him and he denied it then left that night--he hasn't been home since.<P>He keeps denying affair to this day to me, his family and friends, but he has allienated everyone. The OW is his employee.<P>I started Plan B 5/99 and he filed for divorce 2 weeks later. We just met this morning with our attorneys for the 1st time and I just found out that the house is going to have to be sold-so I'm pretty bummed out about that. We moved to this home 3 years ago and it was our dream home. <P>How come your divorce is going to be final so soon? March to October seems pretty quick to me. Is there any way you could stall it further?<P>I have been having a real struggle with Plan B--what about you? I just can't believe that our stories are almost along the same time line, except for the length of our marriages. I have been married for 8.5 yrs. We have a 3 year old and a 5 mos old. I really believe our marriage problems started after the birth of our 1st son but I didn't think that he would resolve the problems by having an affair and divorce.<P>Welll, good luck.