I don´t really know how to start,but I will just start by telling everyone what is going on and whoever wants to give advice,go ahead. It all started about three years ago when I met my wife at work as I was just getting over a long relationship and a daughter that I don´t know,but that´s a different story. I felt that we got off onthe right foot but apparently we had more indifferences than I imagined. We went out on our first date a couple of weeks after we met and I ended up spending the night at her place, that was my first mistake. A couple of days later I moved in with her and her son and I have not left since. The bad times usually weigh out the good. We have fought over everything from money to employment. I´m not saying that I am perfect because I have had my faults in this relationship. I love her and I want to know how we can salvage our relationship and show her that I am really committed to her

Well Sir all I can say is read this site and do what it says. Start with the basic concepts. Could be you gotta lota work to do. I wish you the best.

Matthew,
Wow! Are you sure you're not my husband using a fake name? The same thing happened with us...we met, were inseparable for weeks then he came to dinner one night and never went home. (well, he left for about 3 hours one night but I was miserable and he came back after he told his mother he was gonna marry me! He hadn't even told me yet.) While this is all terribly romantic and exciting, we do seem to lose sight of the practical aspects of a relationship. <p>I wish I had found this site about four years ago, it would have saved us a lot of misery. You two have to lay some ground rules for discussion--ours are no cussing, no yelling and if one of us gets too animated, we chill it for a while. Sometimes, too, one of you just has to shut up while the other one carries on. <p>Jerry is right...read everything you can on this site. It can help tremendously. Perhaps you could do the Emotional Needs Questionnaire together and see what areas need the most work. I didn't realize that for my husband admiration is his most important need (I would have thought affection) and he didn't know that financial support is almost the last thing I'm concerned with---that there are other things I need more. Give it a shot. <p>And come to talk to us. There are bunches of great wise people here who are happy to try to help you.

Thank you for your input and I will carefully follow your advice.