*bounces in* Heeeeellllooo all....I am in exceptionally good mood.....and i have updates and good news....believer don't get all excited it's not what you think...

OK...so wednesday I gott he call from my mother my father got the call from stanford...a kidney match had been made and they were starting the trip up there to possibly get the kidney transplant he had been waiting for....it has been 5-6 years he's been waiting....but they wouldn't know anything till after 8pm...so OK i would be waiting on egg shells to hear if surgery was a go as the have been sent back home once already when a kidney was too damaged to be used.
So I went home and continued with the evening as planned till i heard....so DORK came over for visitation...he knew I was waiting to hear from my parents.....everything was going great...but...as he was leaving...(your gonna love this)....he asks me so....it's been over six months....when can we plan a time for OW to meet DS to integrate them.....I was floored...I told him that tonight wasn't a really good night...as my grandmother had just had surgery to remove cancer and now I was waiting to hear about my dad....he immediatly got defensive....said he wanted it planned....when would we do it..I said maybe we can talk about it next week....he said not good enought what will your excuse be next week....now here is where I got pissed my fathers kidney transplant is NOT an excuse.....I looked him in the eye and i said tonight is not the time for this talk it's very inappropriate....he went on to say if his mother was having surgery he would be worried but wouldn't let it consume him....I said look I can't think about you and your girlfriend tonight...he said so our son is not important...I said yes he is and so is having his grandfather around him....my father out weighs you and your girlfriends issues right now....I need to worry about him...he said fine I'll get a court order to force you to let her see him....OMG ROLF....hahahaha....I was laughing inside....I told him go ahead and waste your money no judge is going to ok that...she is not his mother....I finally said look...I have enough on my plate to worry about...you don't scare me and I won't let you upset me tonight....get out of my apartment....leave get out....he finally left....and my sister was on the phone with me the WHOLE time listening...she heard it all.....and now to the good part...my sister called to tell me....surgery was a go...after DORK left I immediatly threw clothes and essentials into a bag...packed up my sleepy son and drove to meet my sister and we both went to stanford....I was relieved i got to see my dad before he went into surgery....i told him i loved him...and he told me too...he is always the strong type not to express emotion but I knew we bpth said it just in case things didn't go right...because with my dads health...it was a possibility.
Well they took him into surgery around 11:30ish...and i am happy to report....he now has a 3rd kidney that is so far functioning wonderfully...all the years of dialysis and pain have paid off in that moment....4 hours later the doctor told us it was a success....we saw my dad...then left to check into a hotel at 5:30 AM....both my oldest nephew who was worried sick about his buddy and fighting sleep to see his grandpa...and my 1.5 year old who was feeding off cousins nervous energy and bouncing off the walls till 4 am were exhausted....the hotel bed felt like heaven....but my dad is doing good...it doesn't happen much that I get a good laugh and a miracle in the same day. thank you dear lord...you do work in mysterious ways.

SIHW - that is GREAT! You have a wonderful attitude! Keep it up!! And what you said to your STBX about the girlfriend - way to go!!
My very best wishes for your Father's Surgery. Keep ya head up. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
God bless,
Sauron

Gr8 news about your father!! Prayers for him and the family!!

As far as the GF meeting your son and him forcing that to happen. I had to laugh also. <shaking head>

Thanks guys...I just can't believe his audacity....I know the good man I married is gone....whatever is there now...shoot I wouldn't be surprised if he treated his family in the same way with the way he has acted recently....but hey misery loves company...let them be happy togeher....I care not anymore...I just wish he would go away and leave us alone. I don't need such an uncaring jerk trying to teach those horrible values to my son...Family comes first over people like girlfriends....he seperated me from my family for far too long...I used to be much closer to them....now i am trying to rebuild the relationship with them so it's like before...and I want my son to have the same loving relationship of a close family like I had....maybe then he won't turn out like his dad.

Prayers and good karma to your family for the recovery...and for yours too! Keep your spirits up. We're pulling for you!