Both my h and ow thought it would be best for the baby to have her last name. I was so relieved when I saw her SS card with the ow's last name on it.

My H's oc doesnt have his last name, which also relieved me. Hey but get this oc's first name is another version of mine. Which I thought was a little bit of a sweet revenge just to know that every time ow says oc's name she knows she is saying mine. I figured she is either as psycho as I thought or she really needs to do a little more research on her names. lol<BR>Love<BR>bw

OC has ow's last name. My h is not even listed on the birth certificate as the father.<BR>-cd

Same here, oc has ow last name, my h is not evern listed on the birth certificate. My h did not evern know when he was born until months later and he did not even know his exact birth date until he was almost three and the mother filed for cs and the birth date was on the paper work. As far as a copy of the ss card we are still trying to get one. The mother of the oc is very difficult in all issues with us, but as I have said so many times before, she does not have a bit of a problem cashing those checks my h sends her. Gabi1116

Ditto. No last name, not on BCert, but did give my mother-inlaw's name to the kid and she doesn't even know my mIL!

OC does not have H's last name but he is listed on an amended birth certificate.( state law )<P>Jtigger

well, i guess i am the only one. get this, the OW WANTS my H last name to be her child's last name. he has never even seen the child. but that is what she is requesting. and i am sure that the state will change it once they amend the birth certificate since DNA proved that the child is my H's. it makes me sick. i can't see why she wants the child to have his last name, when he has never seen the child. go figure...<P>happy_girl

No happy_girl, you are not alone! My H's OC has his name too.<P>The OW comes from a very religious family and when they found out about her pregnancy they virtually denied all knowledge of her. She was living in the apartment of their two-family home.<P>When she went into labour, no one would take her to the hospital. They refused to get involved with this child who was being born out-of-wedlock. She called my H and cried on his shoulder so he took her to the hospital.<P>Once they arrived, of course, they asked him for all the information about her. They asked who he was and the brilliant, quick thinker said he was the father. They asked his name and he gave it. <P>The next thing we knew the name was on the birth certificate and actually it was sent to the OW as Mrs. XX. I flipped when I saw it, and my H hinted to her that he wanted it changed. At the time since she was still believing that she would win him over, she refused and hinted that CS would go worse for him if he pushed too much.<P>But, this story has a semi-happy ending. OW is now miserable having a child with H's name because everyone knows she is not married. She is now embarrassed by her situation some times and she can't hide because of the name. <P>It's like our mothers always told us -- Be careful what you wish for, you sometimes get it.<P>love<BR>- heavenly

The OC in my situation also has my H name. I only know this because I found out about the affair by being served the child support and paternity papers to my home, My H was away on business. I gave my H the benefit of the doubt that this was all true until I saw a picture of them in all the paperwork. Although it was a copy of a picture, I knew it was him from the clothes he was wearing and the way he was standing. I figured "anyone can forge all this without a paternity test" and it was just someone upset with him at work and trying to make waves. But in seeing the picture I then knew it was true. There was also a copy of the birth cert. with his name on it and the childs name. I never really gave it much thought till now.

The oc in my case also has the ow name. Just like her first child, she is making a real living out of this.<P>babstr.

You are definitely not alone.<BR>The OC has my h name and is JR just as our son from marriage. She not only wanted to destroy me my children were also on the radar.<BR>

The ow in our case requested that the birth certificate be amended after DNA tests. I guess that means the oc has h's last name. I hadn't thought much about it but now it kind of bothers me. Oh well just one more thing to get past.<BR>Echo

Hi Gang<P>I couldn't help responding after reading Heavenly's post. OC has H's name. Somehow I doubt if OW is miserable. After all, her other two children have their fathers' names also.<P> CD

CD,<P>Three children with three last names all different from the OW?! This woman belongs in some kind of Guinness Book of World Records... I guess there is no shame there ....<P>love<BR>- heavenly

Dear heavenly,<BR>Oh no, she doesn't get the world record. My sister-in-law has three children and a fourth on the way - all to different men. One to her first husband, one to a short-term boyfriend, one to her second h, and now she is preggo with her new fiance.<P>Even if she doesnt get the record for that, I believe she is still entitled to some sort of "scumminess award." she was once arrested for having her mentally retarded child stand outside of a grocery store with a can that said "united way" so that she could raise enough money to buy cigarettes. Seemed to her to be a better way to get cash than to get a job. She has NEVER held a job in her life. She has lived for the last 15 years on SSI payments that she gets for her children, who for some inexplicable reason, have psychiatric problems.<P>Of course, a close "second" in the race for that title would be my uncle, who at 37, married a 72 year old woman, talked her into selling her life-long home, and blew the $285,000 profit within the next two years, with nothing at all to show for it. when she finally died, he refused to let any of her four daughters even pick out a momento from her belongings, choosing instead to sell everything to a second-hand store for pocket change. Now he lives on disability.<P>By the way, I didn't know that there was another CD here. <P>-cd

My H's OC has his name. The OW in our case, went to the CS enforcement agency to have them prove that my H was the father. After that, the BC was amended. Now, since she is a scumbag, we now have custody of the OC. <BR>HAH<BR>My 2 cents <BR>Berta

Heavenly,<BR> Thanks for the chuckle!<P>cd,<BR> It's not your fault. I was away for awhile, I don't write in too often, and my computer was down for 2 months. (Supplier ignoring warranty / Eventually just pd out of pocket)<P> <BR>blue, broken, gabi, Jenny, Jtigger, happy_girl, heavenly, cd, NGU, babstr, Lady,<P> I think I agree with you. I wished OW had named OC after her. The nerve!<P><BR>Roberta,<P> Thanks for yours 2 cents. Does that mean the OW is completely out of the picture?<P><BR> CD<BR>

cdcollins,<BR>For a moment I though you turned into sybil. I read the one post then the one after it and said confusing. Any how oc has ow last name when test came back courts also amended birth cert court ordered to have h listed as sperm donor ha ha I wish I mean father. Hello CD no.2 we have 2 tiggers and 2 cds. with love flowerseed <P>------------------<BR>A wise woman builds her house;a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands. Proverbs 14...

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