Bill:<P>I think you answered your own question, especially by posting it in This Forum.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR> Since he only just notified his wife, this would make her a homewrecker, and subject my kids to a worse fate. Especially by his kids.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I don’t get this... why is SHE the homewrecker, and not them BOTH? Is there some big conspiracy here by ALL the parents to say it only Just happened? This one is gonna blow up in all of your faces. Because...<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR> I don't think my kids would buy into the fact that she fell in love in 2-3 months.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Nope. Kids are smart. They might buy it if they were my son’s age(5), but not much beyond that. Of course, coming from their parents, it will be more plausible, since you have always been truthful with them before, right? At least until now...<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I want my kids to trust me, and believe me. If we tell a story that is not plausable, they won't believe it, and will not believe me any more.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>What lessons do you want your children to learn? You are now a father first and foremost. Your wife made her bed, now she must lie in it(sorry for the double analogy). If your W thinks her “love” for this OM is so wonderful, why would she hide it from her kids? You certainly do not owe her anything at this point, particularly not the destruction of your relationship with your children.<P>Tell the truth. Doing otherwise has gotten me in SO much trouble over the last couple years. I was never any good at it, so I am back to complete honesty. Much easier. Why teach your kids that it’s OK to lie, like your wife did?<P>Let us know how it goes. Or rather, how it Went, seeing the date on your original post(in fact, you might want to do that over on the Infidelity board... I know this is actually the appropriate place, but I wouldn’t have found it if not for searching for your posts).<BR><p>[This message has been edited by WhoDat (edited August 26, 1999).]