</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Having issues with OM. Or should I say xOM. I feel stressed and I run to him whenever I feel the pressures at home. Why do I do that."</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I guess its because just like some people rely on alcohol or drugs to make them feel good (or at least deadened their pain) so can be said about you with the OM. But doing so is only going to end up destroying your marriage and family.

DG remember that withdrawl is a one day at a time war. If it is unbearable for you to think of never contacting the OM, then don't and just say to yourself at the beginning of each day that as far as today is concerned, you are not going to contact him. Eventually, it will become easier and easier until one day you will no longer feel the need or desire to see him. Speaking as a recovering alcoholic, this is how I was able to stay sober for the last 20 years.

Good luck and God bless.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> DG remember that withdrawl is a one day at a time war. If it is unbearable for you to think of never contacting the OM, then don't and just say to yourself at the beginning of each day that as far as today is concerned, you are not going to contact him. Eventually, it will become easier and easier until one day you will no longer feel the need or desire to see him. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Best advice ever. It is what saw me through my withdrawal. It truly does get easier and easier.

I would just add, that when you feel that need to "run" to him, find something else right then and there to do, to occupy yourself.

Take good care.
~aut

DG:

At the risk of "repeating", it is true that your H can help a great deal with your withdrawal, if he knows what you need withdrawal from. Considering what he's going through with his FOW and OC, and the favorable way he's handling that si2ation, I would bet that he's stronger than you think. Having someone of his strength on your "team" 2 help you with your troubles would be wonderful.

All my best,
-ol' 2long