Two days after celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary, I was informed of a yr long affair that ended in pregnancy. He has gotten over the emotions to the OW but feels responsible for child. (She is only 4 weeks pregnant)

Says he wants to work on marriage, but doesn't know how much he loves me...any suggestions, he is demanding a 6 month separation which I dis agree with. However I left the house last week to give him some space. the space is causing all sorts of weird behavior...from not TRUSTING me, to accusing me of illegal things...at no time, do I hear him talk about best interest of child, or even what he says about her, does he talk about best interest.

The rollercoaster is killing me inside,does it get any easier?

Suzi Who,

I am so sorry you are in this situation.

He asked for six months separation. If he cannot trust you for one week, how will he trust you for six months. Lot of times it is the guilty party that does not trust the innocent party because he fears you will do what he did.

Guilty dog always barks first! And this is a classic, I'm wrong and lets make you feel like you did it? I would maybe give him his time and get myself taken care of w/ c/s and allimony. Yep get it. Its like if they are blaming you, then your too busy defending yourself while they are the ones who had the free will to not to have an A!. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I myself did the PB first and PA second, but I didn't know about the site then, but it worked for me. I don't know your situation, or the people in it. You just have to do what is best for you and your children now. So get yourself covered w/ C/S and the bills ect. I cut off contact and it drove him crazy. Couldn't tell me it was my fault I guess! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> But we are better and it does get better. Pray, and read everything on this site. Don't do or say anything out of anger. AD help, but you know your limits and "walk away" when you feel the need. I wished I could give you more information, but the "oldies will be able to tell you more. Sorry you are here and we are here for you!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Hey Suzi,

Sorry to welcome u here... but u have come to a good place.

I wish I could tell u the ride gets easier but it doesn't.

R U & H still living apart? If at all possible u 2 need to be under the same roof, working on your M, there is time 2 deal w/ OW & OC later. There are oldies here who can give you better advice, but until DNA is established it is most important for H 2 concentrate on u & your M frist.

OW will try everything she can right now to get him to leave u. IF H wants to work on your M then u 2 have to start working on it now together.

Just wanted to c how u r doing & bump your post up.