Ever heard the Garth Brooks song, "Unaswered Prayers"? Maybe this is who I will be down the road. Maybe God does not want this marriage to work? Do any of you ever get frustrated thinking God isn't helping? Maybe this is just me..

The military Chaplain is requesting one last meeting with myself and my H. My H has been "ordered to attend". I don't feel I should waste any time here as this marriage is over. It has been poisoned with evil. If I attend, we may get back together, but in another week we will be right back where we are at. We can't keep going back and forth. He can't keep coming in and out of our lives when he feels he wants to. I need to take a stand for me.

I took JT's story as guidence. I changed the locks on my house. I've started packing and plan on moving to my home state soon to have a support system that I need very much. It's hard being here alone not knowing anyone.

I'm trying to be stong and do the no contact thing. I lose my footing, make up an excuse to call him - he then is hateful which makes me feel worse. It's just a reminder that the Devil has suceeded in destroying yet another marriage. My marriage is over.

Should I go to the counseling session or just leave things as they are?

I would go and put some closure to it. You don't have to be ugly, but maybe you can do a plan B letter. Leave him with the impression of he just lost the best thing he will ever have! Hold your head up! And be proud of giving your all! Thats all God wants you to do. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> You need the support of your family, then yes, make plans and move. Moving is so hard on the kids. Thats why I would stay in my home (one or the other one) But do what is best for you and your children now and make your life all it can be. You will not be alone. God is right there w/you, let him help and hold you. And not to mention all of us here !
(((((((((Hugs to you K! )))))))))))))))
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

I agree with SunnyD. I would go to the counseling session and do a plan B letter possibly-- go home to your family--get some support--Hate to say it or should harsh but H will either figure it out or not and if he doesn't then you are better off without him.

Everything you are feeling is normal and we are all here for you--just focus on your kids and be the best mom you can be.

BIG ((((HUGS))))

I agree with everyone as well. Go and get some closure.

Never under estimate the power of God, it might not seem like he is working for your best interest right now, but have faith that he will get you through this, and he will bring you to bigger and better things. Sometimes things are not always the way they seem...Perhaps this is God's way of getting you out of harm's way. Where is your faith ???? Pray & stay strong...this is not the end of the world....always do your best to be positive. I know it is hard, but do it for U & your kids.

K,

I would go to the session. You will have to eventually do whatever you have to do to secure the relationship that you want for yourself. You will know when it is time to put an end to the madness. But I would try every avenue in this whole thing. It is a daily struggle to stand up for myself and my kids in this mess because I love this man so much. I was almost beginning to think that I was obseesed with him, but I wanted my M desperately. I allowed him to do whatever he wanted just for the sake of keeping my M. Now I realize that allowed him to have the two lives, so I was not helping it I was attributing to the destruction of it by letting him walk all over me.

K - You must do what is best for you. Not what you see others doing. Deep dwon you know what you have to do - and only you can do it.

I will be praying for you - and if you need me I am here for you!

JT

PS - Remember GOD always answers prayers - it may not be the answer we want, but it is the answer we are getting and he knows best! Keep the Faith!!

How is K ? We havent heard from you in a couple of days. How did the session go? Let us know and we are here for you.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D