Hey everyone. But we need your prayers. He's alittle sick. I posted on the SBF. Dad, step mom
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Thats me! and mom are doing well! Glad we made it though that step and now on to the legal things. Wish us luck and keep praying! Thanks for your support and prayers
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Hi Sunny,

Like I said I am so happy your husband is sticking by you. Your new step son is in my prayers. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You guys are doing super--good for your H for sticking with his family--Congrats--hope Andrew gets out of ICU soon. Did OW smoke?

Do you have a small sense of relief now?

Yes, I am glad that part of it is over. He has finger and toes and is other wise healthy. Just the little lungs are not there yet. No she does not smoke. Its amazing that he has grabbed my heart and took off w/it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> And I haven't even got to hold him yet. So what is it going to be like when I do. I think going out and shopping for the room and D getting so excited has helped. A friend has some items for me and I will p/u them today and I am re-painting some furniture to put in his room. I'm making his bedding myself, just to make it special for him. No one else will have a room like this. But I'm like that. As far as H, I didn't think we would ever love like this. It is awesome and I am greatful for everyday we have had! Oh and D is getting a new room also! But she has gotten more into doing his than her's. Its funny I'm not thinking about the pg, a, just what a great little person he could be w/ all of us working together. I keep looking at his pix and saying a prayer for him! And momma too. She will have to go home w.o him and I know that must be hard. But everyhting has a lesson to it and we all will one day learn it!.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Sunny,

You already know how I feel about all this & you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You are a very special woman & a blessing to all who know you. Your M will give God glory & inspire others.

Praying for you all!

Love ya!

Sunny, I am so happy for you. This is the way it is supposed to work out. You guys are going to go just fine. Congrants and I hope Andrew is doing fine in no time.

Hi Sunny,

I am so glad to hear that you are doing okay. It sounds like that little one has captured your heart. I hope you have a nice day and I'll catch up with you later.

Congrats on everything and everyone working out well!

JT

Thanks everyone. We heard they are keeping him longer now. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Just keep us in your prayers. THANKS SO MUCH
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Since the mom is leaving the hospital without her baby and you are getting a room ready, I assume you are adopting the baby? It sounds like you have so much love for the baby already and I commend you on that.

It must be a woman thing. I still don't see how I am going to be able to look at this child without thinking about the affair. I can't even look at my WIFE without thinking about the affair.

You must be a better person than I.

Regardless, congratulations to you and your husband on your new baby.

New, no we are not adopting the baby. She went home cause she has another child to tend too. They only let you in the see the baby every now and then and like my H said the dr are good ones and really there is not anything we can do for him. He is in Gods hands. We are doing contact and visitations, I believe that all are past the A and are wanting to do what is right and best for all involved. And its funny I saw him last night using everything he had to breathe and NO I didn't think of where he came from or how he got here. I know he is here and I am here to love and be a possitive part of his life. He has a room at our home because he is a part of our family. I couldn't put him in a play pen and then when he is gone put it in the closet like he didn't exsist. Thats not me. I wouldn't want anyone to do that to my child. He is a part of my H therefore he is a part of me. He has a mom and she is a good mom and is perfectly capitable of taking care of him. And I am a part of his life that hopfully he will grow up knowing I love him no matter how he got here. When I look at my H I see the pain he feels for all of this. Can't take it back, have to go on. Getting him to talk to me about his feelings the past couple of days have been hard. But last night when he saw me with his son w/ tears in my eyes cause the little thing seems so strong but at the same time watching him breath, them poking him, sticking him, just broke my heart for him! H has been scared to talk about the baby, thinking it would upset me. I told him, he needed to talk about him and if it was important to him, then it was important to me. Am I giving up part of me to make everyhting work, no I don't think so. I'm giving all of me for me and what I need to do what is right. I don't live in the past and just like our sins when we ask for forgiveness, they are at the bottom of the sea. I know I will have no regrets and I wouldn't want my H to have them either. Life is to short and too precious to waste on hating, hurting, and not living as God exspects you to live. I'm not sorry for the A or Baby A. I have learned alot and don't think me and H would have EVER been this strong or close. Everything happens for a reason and I think you can let it produce negitivity in your life or you (with help for God) can let it make you life better.
But that is just me and I have givin it all to him to take care of. And God has put is hand on my heart so has baby A!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

What a truly inspiring situation and outcome!

My situation isnt exactly like yours but my fiance is expecting a baby boy in less than a month with another woman.

Some of my family/friends have been telling me how insane I am but after a lot of talks with God and my mom, I decided, not only that I could do this but I'm going to do it right.

I'm excited, shopping, cleaning and anything else I can to take part. I think keeping myself busy with positive things has made dealing with the negative so much easier!

Bless you and the others, especially that lil angel who is so blessed that youre a part of his lil life. I pray he develops and recovers quickly and completely.

hugs

Sunny,
I am praying for the little guy and your family.
I hope he will be ok soon. Love and prayers to you.

BTW, didn't you post something on SBF about how H said you could be at the delivery room, etc. I am looking for it everywhere and I can't find it. I want to send it to H. Do you recall that post?

Sunny

You have such a loving and positive attitude!!! Little man in my prayers. I'm so happy that so far things are working out with you guys

Bug hugs and prayers for all involved.

Thanks Luv, I will look and see if I can find it. Lil man is doing better! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> He is improving. Maybe God is telling us all something! Two wrongs don't make a right and we better see that! I wouldn't have been able to do this w/ out my strength from God and the love of my H. It's taken alot of heart to heart and considering each others feeling to get as far as we have come. Its taken being honest and caring and not blowing up at each other. And I have finally let myself love him 100%.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D.

Sunny,

I can't begin to tell you what reading your posts is doing to me. I am so very happy for you because of how you H is dealing with this, for how you D is taking this and amazing you are. I am worried about Andrew and praying that he is ok. I am happy that he is improving. I am also so sad that I too could not be writing a post like that. I am so sad that my H could not see past whatever was blocking his sight (love for OW, pride, selfishness) to do what was necessary for me and to keep his family together. When I read you post, I realize how much I still love my H and would be happy to have a life with him and OC in it. It's not the A or OC that is making me leave him, it's how he is dealing with OC and V. It's his disrespect toward my feelings. Sorry to thread jack. I just wanted you to know that I envey you and I am so happy for you.

Sunny,

I hope that everything goes well with little man! Is Andrew his name? If it is that is a beautiful name, I like it. He will be in my prayrs as well as the rest of yur family. I commend oyu for the strength that you are showing your H and your D.

You are a splended person and a wonderful mother and wife. You would have to be to show the compassion that you do. I wish that maybe in some way my H could have trusted his family ( me & kids) enough to have com to an agreement about OC, but no he continued to lie and cheat us!

Your H will need you desperately now and I can see you will be right there by his side as any good wife should. Take care Sunny, and I'm with you in spirit!

JT

Hey everyone. Just to let you know Baby A should be going home tomorrow or thurs. He's doing much better and we are blessed. Thanks for everyones prayers.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Sunny,

Just wanted to say how happy I am to hear the little guy is doing better!

When my older son was born, he ended up in ICU in a different hospital than I was in, with machines breathing for him, so I can TOTALLY relate to how scary and nervewracking it is!! Glad his hospital stay will be short!

I am glad for you sunny. I know that you are relieved that this hospital stay was short. I hope you and your family the best and I am praying for you. I wish you the best and much happiness and success on your marriage.

JT