My MIL said my H is not coming to Thanksgiving dinner, probably because they invited me. I am trying to see that as his choice, but also feel a little sad I am keeping him from a family event. Shesaid he complained about the noise at his apartment. Loved hearing that!<P>She thinks he is not seeing OW because he is over there at night and has talked about going on a vacation with her (his Mom) I am not convinced because he was home most nights.. OW works swing shift so they did their thing during the day. Maybe , who knows.<P>They both said he was confused and nowhere near calling a lawyer and had even mentioned the possibility of a second chance with me.<BR>His Mom told him he should call me to see how I was. Maybe he will think on that.....<P>So, any suggestions on what I should do at this point? Probably continue with time and patience huh? Do you think newsy letters from me are still OK? I am afraid he will not be able to make the first move. His bithday is coming up in December. I am tempted to ask him out, but afraid to. Please any advice?<BR>Lora

OMG OMG OMG Lora ...... this is great news!<P>I say Plan A and if you want to ask him out for his BDay, DO IT!!!!<P>He'd love it I think. You need to keep sending him cards and newsy stuff, start now. Just do like Lostva did, you know what I mean.<P>I'm so excited for you ... take it slow and keep those low expectations, Honey. Remember, do things and don't expect anything back. You're a Plan A Queen!!!!!<P>I'm working from my Laptop and on-line simultaneously, so I'll keep an eye on the board for your response, k?<P>Love you, Lora!!!<P>Jo

Hi Jo,<P>I went to bed.<P>Yes, I was sort of encouraged. You know how down I was the day before. I have been praying for answers of weither I should continue to have hope for my mariage, maybe this was a sign.<P>Talk to you later,<BR>Lora

Hi Lora,<P>So happy to hear that you have support of H's family, it really does make you feel valued doesn't it. My H's family is the same way.<P>I agree that you should send cards and ask him out to dinner for his birthday. Do it early so he doesn't make other plans. I don't usually tell my H family newsy stuff, we all pretty much get that done on email. Just remember not to expect anything in return (acknowledgement, thank you, etc) when you are plan A'ng. You'll feel less disappointed, let's face it you'll be disappointed that you don't here from him, but this way if you don't expect anything it'll hurt less.<P>The news from your in-laws is good. Again, becareful about what you read into it. You seem like you have very good instincts, listen to it and take things slow. Always safe bet to plan A.<P>Take care and blessings to you, MT

Hi Lora!<P>Good to see you are doing really well.<BR>It's great you get support from your H's family, that's very important.<P>Keep up the good work on Plan A Lora, you've been doing great !<P>Hugs,<P>Meg

Lora,<BR>Oh my God!!!!!!!!!!!!! Miracles do happen!<BR>I agree ,take it easy,take it slow.<BR>Talk later.<BR> Love AND Prayers, Beth

MT,<BR>Yes, I so appreciate his family being there for me. He does listen to his Mom too, so maybe he will start to think a little. Hum, maybe she could read some of the Harleys books and educate him a little. <P>I know, no expectations. I have actually gotten quite good at that.<P>MF,<BR>I wanted to say on the other post about how good you sounded after the contact with your H! You did great! <P>Beth,<BR>Glad your computer is back up.. Ive missed our talks. I am trying to be cautiouly optimistic at this point.<P>But I am having a good day. I bought some great pants yesterday for thanksgiving and a smaller size too! Jo taught me to say I have been through hell lately and I desearve them. I will look good if he is there or not! I am baking bread and making soup.. first time I have cooked since he moved out other than premade dinners and string cheese.<BR>I feel like I have been given a much needed boost of hope.<BR>Lora

Lora,<BR>Have so much to tell you.Glad you bought new pants for self,you deserve it.Are you still losing weight?Did you read message to my H?<BR> Love and Prayers,Beth