Lora--great news!<P>I'd go along with FHL & the rules, there's RULES II which includes ex's, & H's. I read them, kept them in mind, more than used them.<P>As for songs, may I suggest the one that I've been singing part of for the last week, from JESUS CHRIST SUPERSTAR (same vinatage as Queen ) the Mary Magdalene song:<P>Try not to get worried,<BR>Try not to turn on to <BR>Problems that upset you.<BR>Don't you know,<BR>Everything's alright,<BR>Yes, everything's fine,<BR>The water's cool and the ointment sweet. (she's putting a wet cloth on his head)<BR>Close your eyes, close your eyes<BR>(my memory is presently glitching out whatever comes next, but I think it's Judas beginning to rabble rouse--ignore that part )<P>It's better than "love stinks", anyway .<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

Lora,<P>It's great you didn't call OW's H.<BR>You made a right decision, and look what you are getting as a reward.<P>I'm happy for you, it's a great way to start new year, isn't it?<P>Hugs,<P>Meg

Lots of wise words of encouragement i keep your wits about you, and I hope you are both honest.<P>Good grief though, two years???? Was that two years of being apart. or two years of knowing about the affair - I'll have to read your story - where's the main thread?<P>i was hoping for 6 months of plan A then happy ever after........No I wasn't really, but two years - I'll need a straight jacket -but well done for getting to here.<P>Let us know more..........

Onoffonoff,<BR>Thanks for the good wishes. I plan to take it slow.<P>FHL and Lor,<BR>The rules huh? I have sort of ingnored that whole movement since I was already married at the time they came out. I have been trying to not call him, although I did make the 2 calls to him. I am afraid he would have never made a movement otherwise. I will try and let him call me now to set up the "date"<P>MF,<BR>Yes it was incredible the rollercoaster of this week. Xmas I thought about suicide, then to have this happen... I am in shock.<P>Mcbroon,<BR>Well, H friendship with OW started 2/99. I didnt discover it til 8/99. I started plan A 11/99. He moved out 8/00. I don't think my story is any place in paticular. <BR>Lora

Dear Lora,<P>Ok, first of all, I can't wait to meet you. It's only a few days away now.<P>And second....OMGGGGGGGGGGG!!!<P>LOL..sorry I didn't post earlier, but I am trying to kick the butt of this little green-eyed monster that sometimes sits on my shoulder when I hear the good stuff. No really hon, it is just amazing isn't it when you see that darn fog start to lift? I am praying for you that it will contintue. <P>You must be feeling pretty scared right now. You've gotten some wonderful replies here, don't we here at MB love a success story? I think it's great. I know, I wont' get too excited for you here, but it's hard not to. I want each of us to get to move over to Recovery someday, and looks like you're going to beat us hon .<P>Get Jo to make that plane reservation will ya...I mean sheesh!<P>Heres to happy endings...I pray for one for you, you deserve it so much.<P>allison

Allison,<P>Yes, I am scared. I am so glad I have this weekend coming up to give me time and some kind of exotic, mysterious vacation thing. I think my H is sort of wondering who I know in arizona.<P>I don't want to jinx it by thinking its all going to go OK, but it is certainly the most hopeful thing that has happened to me in over a year!<P>You forget, my H is the slow moving one.... 4 months to talk to me... I wouldnt count on me making it to recverey ahead of anyone.<P>Lora

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Lora:<BR><B><BR>Well, H friendship with OW started 2/99. I didnt discover it til 8/99. I started plan A 11/99. He moved out 8/00. I don't think my story is any place in paticular. <BR>Lora</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Dear Friend,<BR>I am so glad about you and your good news. But please try not to expect too much and to avoid any LBs during the dinner. And I agree with others who think that the rools or a kind of agreement must be made at the very beginning of any thoughts of his moving back.<P>But I am also delighted with the dates you wrote because they gave me a hope maybe my H would come to concious in the future and maybe...... you know.<P>By us the dates are as follows: A started Oct/99, we separated on different floors of family house March/00, totaly separated (me and YD in a new appartment) July/00, H moved OW into the house Oct/00. But we are occasionally in contact because of daughters (18, 11). I hardly avoid LBs during those contacts.<P>Please is theresomeone else (except Lostva and you) with such a long story but a happy ending??????<P>Wish you all the best from my heart. Would be thinking of you!<BR>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Lora:<BR><B>LOL, actually I think I will just revile in the thought that he wants to talk to me. </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>LOL...little freudian slip there? Surely you meant "revel" <BR>