Angelface,<P>you are not over reacting. Your H has once again crossed boundries he should NEVER cross. ONE going to a bar out after work for drinks, should NEVER happen, if you are not invited. And his behavior is that in the least of a boy with a "crush", and it is funny how he has confided in his Best friend YOU. Now, take back your relationship. Show up to his office at lunch time...for a picnic. OH he will be mortified, BUT it is a nice romantic gesture, and others will think it is nice...and the "future" OW (crush lady)...will feel very uncomfortable. your H maybe MAD..cuz it blows his cover..BUT you may remind him..it is better than having to move a few states and start over AGAIN.. YOUR H has to get a grip...HE IS MARRIED W/ CHILDREN, and we are NO longer in HS. My H is a major flirt, he has always been that way (married 17 years), He is very nice looking and very successful ( and very insecure...hence liking attention)..he is a major girl magnet, he crossed the line once...and almost destroyed a wonderful friendship not to mention marriage (though it has been recent for me and the jury is out). Look Angel from what I understand from the wonderful people here the Harley plan is a very good one. In my case..we (H) have been very open an honest since d day...I did hire a PI..not to follow him, but to give H a lie detector (cost $250.00). I really needed to know if this had been his first (only A). You start to doubt everything when A happens to you. AS far as you H's needs being met. A has nothing to do with you..it has to do with a very insecure H, who for some stupid reason needs OW to validate them..I KNOW i was a good wife/Mother..I look back and have asked myself what could have I done different...and I would not change a thing..not even trusting him (it was a wonderful way to live). I placed this on him. WE have responsiblity to each other because we are married. I do to him, and he does to me, period! Anyway I dont usually post here, but your post caught my eye. It is YOUR marriage, take it back. He has NO RIGHT to do this to you again, you have been a good faithful wife and mother.<BR>H needs to stop going out after work, it is not healthy. And his behavior just proves that. JMHO
