bla bla bla....."Also, I am simply unable to interact with you any longer because I cannot tolerate your lies, phoney stories, and fabrications. It has gone too far, and I need to have a life of truths and honesty."<P>... this is part of the reason why I need a Plan B. I can't take the frequency of fake crap. It is unbelievable. Most conversations are full of it.<P>Anyone got a good way to get this in there? Probably not eh (I'm from Canada - so I can use "eh").<P>Just been a phoney and dishonest couple of days. If my wife were a race horse, she'd win the triple crown of lying, I'm sure.<P>I talk to Steve Friday.<P><p>[This message has been edited by Rick37 (edited June 06, 2001).]

Not a good idea Rick - and you know it! It's so tempting though.... my WH is totally convinced that he has been truthful and honest with me, and won't believe that his affair has been based on dishonesty and deception (!!!!!)<P>If he was my son, I'd have put him over my knee and given him a damn good hiding by now - wish he'd just grow up!<P>hugs, Paint

Rick - You asked for it, so here's a brief rundown on my situation, so you know <P>Married nearly 17 years, 2 kids. Husband was using a staff consultancy agent to find new people for his office. They 'click' and business lunches soon turn to social lunches. I get concerned, but he promises me that he loves me and would never leave me, she is just a friend. Two weeks later I find I am pregnant - husband doesn't want another baby and that same evening leaves me at home, crying my eyes out, to go and meet OW. OW's husband follows them, sees them kissing, beats up my husband. I get call to say he's in hospital, badly beaten. Husband doesn't come home that night, the OW stays with him to 'look after him'. He comes home following morning to say that he is in love with her and she with him. He's leaving me. I am forced by the circumstances I find myself in to have to terminate the pregnancy (don't want to talk about that, it was, and still is, hell.). Husband returns to the house to help look after our children while I am in 'hospital' (but sneaks out to have sex with OW for the first time at some point during that week). When he thinks I am 'recovered' (i.e. 4 days after the abortion), he moves into an apartment. I am left completely devastated, 5,500 miles from home (we are English and only moved to the USA 18 months ago), and trying to look after 2 very traumatised children who are having nightmares every night. Do I want him back - Yes (Why? I must be mad, but I still love him!).<P>D-Day was April 13th (Friday 13th!!!), the situation now is that he has only had contact with her via e-mail (but sometimes several times a day), for the past few weeks. From his latest e-mails it looks as though they are planning to get together again in person as soon as he gets back from vacation in England (I didn't go, couldn't face it).<P>So there you are.....long story, but I tried to keep it short as possible. I'm now thinking of Plan B'ing, which is why I'm so interested in your excellent letter!<P>hugs, Paint

Rick37, Paint is right don't do it, I LB today big time, I told her I didn't believe her on palns for tomorrow with the kids and his brother. Apparently he is out of town, with any luck his plane will crash. Anyway, I said we agreed I didn't want the kids around him, she replyed, why not? So the kids don't get hurt when it ends. Of cuores she said, who said it has to end/ I replyed, they always do. What always do? she asked. Affairs, This is'nt an affair. Your are so full of **** I replyed, another LB. Ouch. Blahh, Blahhh, Blahh, I apoligzed, I sorry yuou feel that way and I sorry for the way I have treated yo in the past. <P>Sorry Rick37 didn't mean to monopolize your post, WHere in Canada are you from? Are you an old time hockey player??<P>JK <P>

No no no!!! You know better than that, bud! It's a <B>love</B> letter, remember?? <P>AGG<BR><p>[This message has been edited by AGoodGuy (edited June 07, 2001).]